I have great friends this year unlike last year, and I want to tell them about my somewhat scarred past, but I don't know how to start the conversation, and not make it sound like I'm just complaining/asking for pity. I feel like I would get closer to them if they knew more about me, which is what I want. How should I approach this?
Maybe just a bit at a time. You could say I'm really glad you are all my friends I feel so comfortable around you, I haven't felt like this with my friends before.
I think it is smart to tell them a little bit at a time instead of just dropping it all at once. I've already given them some hints. Like they know I didn't have any friends last year, and they also know that my year is so much better than before. I just don't know how they are going to react when I tell them I didn't want to live and that I've cut myself. I don't want them to think I'm some sort of monster.
I am sure they won't but that's why it's good to do it a bit at a time so they can understand it a bit at a time. Rather than it being like dropping a bomb on them. Plus they see what you are like now so I'm sure they will be ok.
I sure hope so. Thank you very much. You know how when you're closeted, you feel kind of like nobody really knows you? Well I sort of feel like my own friends don't really know me that well just because they only know about me in the present, and are not aquainted with my past.
I did it! I sat my best friend down, and told her everything. It wasn't quite the 'little by little' method, but it still worked, and she held me in her arms as I cryed. She knew exactly what to say, and made me feel so much better. I love her so much, and I'm so proud of myself that I was able to tell her!
