So.. I'm a femme girl.. I might deal with the ''oh you're too girly to be gay''

Tbh, it is a big problem for femme lesbians. I'd suggest you be patient with them and don't let it phase you. It all boils down to ignorance.

 

Hey I male to make it clear

But I also read at the other forum how hard is to find femme lesbian, The femme lesbians are called "lipstick lesbians" aren't they?

And some people say tha tlipstick lespbians do not exist But if you look in media the heterosexual men image for lesbians is the "lipstick lesbian" image.

For example TV series "L word" depicts lesbian characters who are rather feminine. Aslo porn industry focus laso on femme girls (who are rather straight unfortunately) mainly to please hetero males.

I have laso that kind of hetero male taste and love to watch two beautiful femmes making love
Also even though I am male I am interested in lesbians in general but mainly in that "lipstick genre" So its worrying for me that reality is so hard.

Greets

 

Its funny the people who know I'm gay laugh (In a friendly manner) because I'm the exact opposite of a stereotype. Also being gay doesn't change who you are. It is just a fact that adds on to the millions of things that make you you.

 

I'm femme and I've had other lesbians say I'm too girly to be gay, I can wear dresses and heels but sometimes wear jeans, vest tops and blazers if I feel like it but I don't really care I'm out to nearly everyone , my idea girl would be femme as I'm not really into butch women x

 

Well I realize you already have a lot of advice on this but here goes...

I'm trans*, and I know I'm going to have to deal with a whole lot of, "Well, you're too femme to be a guy," and, "But you're attracted to MEN!" And eventually, it gets to the point where I'm just like, "this is who I am. You can either accept me, or you can decide to not have me in your life." It's harsh, but only those people who stick by you no matter what and don't question what you know to be true are real friends. While it's true that a lot of people--true friends and family included--might have a bit of a problem believing it at first, they'll get over it and realize that you know yourself best.

Trust me, it caused me a lot of dysphoria at first because of all this stuff, and I'm definitely a bit sensitive about it, but you just have to get comfortable with yourself and be ready to challenge the people who suggest you aren't who you say you are.

 

^ This is so me. I'm also a really girly girl that happens to like other girly girls as well. I'm really not into masculine-looking girls at all and I've no idea if I'll ever find the opportunity to be with a girl that's like myself, but then again, life is full of surprises. :3

 

I know exactly how you feel, ChloeKiss. Most women seem to bypass me because I don't look especially gay i.e. I have long dip-dyed hair, I wear dresses and heels, and I'm not actually that big on rainbows... I'm starting to wonder if I should have some kind of cape or neon sign to make it more apparent at this point - It doesn't seem to matter how many girls you smile at on the tube or out and about.

The only way I've gotten past it is to hang out with other lesbians or go to a lesbian bar to meet women. Apart from that, I'm short of suggestions, sorry.

 

Sigh.
Yes, yes.

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Sigh.
Yes, yes.