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They took her away :(

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by roadtojoy, Dec 15, 2013.

  1. roadtojoy

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    Sorry i haven't been replying, i've been going through a hard time. Rachel is suicidal and doesn't wanna be alive anymore unless she gets to be with me. I've been trying to talk her out of it but she just hates being home. Her brother and i have saved up some money but we still don't have enough. I feel completely hopeless at this point. Considering doing something bad just to get my hand on money.. :frowning2:
     
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    In addition to what has been said, I live in Dublin myself and I know he has put the contact number down but I will reinterate that the Outhouse is a physical safe place she can go to, its on Chapel St.

    There is the switchboard someone has put the number down but its only open in the evenings the rest of the day there is the Smaritans 1850 60 90 90

    There is the Dublin Lesbian line that nobody has mentioned
    Phone: (01) 872 9911
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    Web: Dublin Lesbian Line - Home

    If she is getting harrassed the Gardai (Irish Police) have LGBT specialist officers in every station

    Also - Welcome To LGBT.ie

    I am just going to say that Ireland is not Homophobic, this type of thing going on is very very rare and her parents are just evil, also its very unusual for someone to get sectioned in Ireland for self harm and suicide idealization like that.

    I hope you get it all sorted soon :slight_smile:

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    Have you told her that one day she will be with you?? I have been suicidal (still am sometimes) and what generally shakes me out of it is when my boyfriend talks sense to me. Tell her that if she carries it out you will not be together, you mentioned you are both 17, well its literally a few months until you can both move out.

    Just be positive (*hug*) People who are suicidal and clinically depressed fail to see the positives only the negatives.
     
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    Thanks dear, yeah i talk to her everyday but i can't change her mind it seems, she's always so upset :frowning2: I know i'm gonna be so happy when we're 18 but we still don't have enough money!
     
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    Omg I really hope she feels better poor girl :icon_sad: if she just holds out a little bit more she can be with you .
     
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    The fact that she is talking to you is a good thing. She isn't withdrawing
     
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    Gay Waterford - they have a Facebook and Twitter page and it's run by one of my oldest and dearest gay friends x :slight_smile:
     
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    These times seem like they're forever, but they're not, unless you put an end to them. Think, dream, imagine... how wonderful it will be to be together again. You will be! You will! It will happen!
     
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    Has she or her brother contacted any of the LGBT organizations in her area?
     
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    I was really shocked when I read that this is happening in ireland. I live in ireland and I have never had one single person react badly to my coming out.
    What your girlfriends parents are doing is child abuse. If I was you I'd call or email the hospital she's in and let her doctors know what's going on. They will be able to protect her.
     
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    Your parents are supportive, so i have a question: is asking them for some sort of help plausible? Could your girlfriend stay somewhere at your home until you get the money you need? Or could they lend you some money, even if just s little? Could they help you in contacting people who could help?

    Think outside the box, dont discard possibilities so easily, try everything, take multiple actions if necesary. You have an obstacle ahead, if you cant jump it or move it aside, then explode it, with more dinamite than necesary, move sky and sea and mountains. And whatever you do, dont lose hope.
     
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    I'm trying every possible thing i can think of i promise you guys that, i might be able to get some help with the money issue from my parents, i'm just scared to ask :/ i've started doing this thing online where guys buy me something from a wishlist on amazon and they get webcam sessions with me. when i get whatever they bought me i sell it for money. its hard acting like i like these guys but its an "easy" way of getting money
     
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    Try these as well as stuff already posted:
    About Us : LGBT.ie
    Mental Health and Well Being : The Issues : GLEN
    if she's Christian: Gay (LGBT) Christian Resources & Helplines in Ireland
    What We Do

    What's the worst they can do? Say no? :slight_smile:

    Sounds like you're in the US. If you're still under 18, this may constitute child pornography, which is ILLEGAL. DON'T do it. Even if you're of legal age, be VERY careful. Try other means of getting money in. Babysitting, odd jobs off craigslist, part time jobs in your area, etc.
     
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