I wasn't in the closet long at all. Almost as soon as I found out I was bi, I told the people closest to me. But before I told them I was just terrified that people would look at me and know I was different. Walking around in public was torture because suddenly EVERYONE looked like a potential partner. It was as if something in my brain said, "She figured it out! Yes! Let's find her a mate!!!" It was all I could think about. I couldn't look at anyone, and I was sure everyone would look at me, see how awkward and uncomfortable I was, and they'd just know I was bi and think I was wrong or disgusting because of it. Edit: There are still a lot of people I haven't told, though. And though I don't feel so uncomfortable in public anymore, I'm worried someone will see me checking out a woman and think poorly of me for it. I go to school with a lot of homophobic people, and I'd hate for one of them to notice me checking a woman out.
They the fear of my parents finding out, and constantly lying to my friends and never really having anyone to talk to.
Fear of losing my family and friends Lying all the time Cannot live with my bf or else people would be suspicious
For me it's my parents. How they will react once I come out! All I have ever wanted to do it make them pround but I know that the words " hey, mum, dad I'm a lesbian" would break their hearts.... ---------- Post added 27th Nov 2013 at 08:30 AM ---------- ...god then yes there's the lying too! The 'agreeing' with my mother when I'm with her and she will say ' god he's hot' and sometime I'll be like 'yeah....' (Total lie) or ' hmm not really'! Followed by the sinking feeling of wishing I could have said ' no he's not hot, but that women over there is gorgeous'....
Not in the closet anymore about sexuality, but I am in the closet to some people with gender. I would say the worst things are feeling like you are lying to everyone and people not seeing you how you see yourself.
When you're lying in bed at night imagining all the possibilities that would happen if you DID come out, and worrying about if anything would change between you and your friends/family.
Like Techno, not really too much in the closet about sexuality, but I am with gender. The feelings of suppression Worrying about losing a friend Being hesitant in my relationships due to living in a house with an awkward and confusing mixture of conservatism and liberalism... Not only would it raise suspicions, but conflict is pretty inevitable.
