How much of your sexuality defines you?

It hasn't defined me. What has, however, is coming out. I am me; the me who exists now. The previous me was a fabrication defined very much by not being true to myself.

 

I actually think sexuality shouldn’t define your personality. Sure, it should be an important part of your life. It determines who you will love and hopefully spend eternity with.
But I don’t think someone should be able to be characterized as Gay or Lesbian and have that be a key factor in describing who they are.
I understand the wish to express yourself. But as bisexual? Why not express yourself as who you are? Express your sentiments of love, of desire, of want for either men or women. However, labeling it as expressing one’s bisexual self is making it special, in the sense not the norm.
Sorry if this isn’t what you expected, but this is my opinion.
My personality is what defines me.

 

I don't think it defines me. However, I do think it is one heavy burden which affects my personality.

 

It defines only one part of me, just like my ethnicity, sex, or age; we're more than simply the sum of our parts. There was a time when sexuality was the only thing on my mind, and I became very self-conscious around others, but now it's like "So what?"

 

It doesnt actually. it just defines who you see me holding hands with. my sexuality is such a SMALL part of myself that only comes into play at home, at night with my partner. I'm still a nerd, a video game addict, I love my job, I love debates, I'm still a slight control freak with OCD.
As of right now, it doesnt really have that much to do with who I am as a person, except that I am bit more anti-religion and sensitive to LGBT issues.

 

I don't think my sexuality defines me that much at all. However, I do feel that since coming out I have become a lot more confident in myself. I have much more self esteem and ambition now, and I think that, it all boils down to the massive weight that was lifted when I came out. I hardly think about my sexuality any more, I think it probably defined me more before I came out as it was constantly on my mind, but now it's just another part of me. And anyways, we're all too interesting to just be defined by one minor detail

 

It doesn't define me a whole lot. Of course, when you're gray, there's not a whole lot of sexuality there to define you, I guess. :lol: Sex just kind of takes a back seat to everything else in my life. My gender is more what defines me, probably because I put more effort into expressing it.

 

Somewhat. Actually, I think not. Ah, how to explain. I was going to say that I thought my personality reflected my sexuality, but I think its the other way round. My sexuality is an extension of my personality.

So whatever.

I do feel as if I'd be giving up a part of myself if I were to choose to become straight (were that possible), so I suppose it defines me to some extend, else I wouldn't feel that way. Its just important not to let any one thing, sexuality included, overcome all other things that could define you.

 

My identity label is an atheist, socialist, academic lesbian (not necessarily in that order) - and lots more besides when you get into a love of the Theatre, Science Fiction geek, Teacher, Spreadsheet Lover etc.

 

I think that, overall, my sexuality doesn't define me. It's not like I go around trying to seem as gay as possible, and shove it down everybody's throat, but I do do occasional things like wear a pride bracelet, pin, or something. It's just a part of me, like how I like computers, or the tech side of theater, I'm a whovian or something like that. Occasionally, I'll be weird and do something like this,

but that's about it.

 

I love that picture!!!!

I should have added knitter to my 'identity' above but I'm nowhere near as good as you!

 

It doesn't define me at all, that's probably the reason why I don't understand the whole "gay pride" thing.

 

Actually I find this image sums it up! Knitting together (groans are permitted) an identity out of a sexuality that is considered outside the norm. (nice knitting by the way, been thinking about learning how to do this).

Anything outside the norm is in some way going to define us, like it or not, we will be noticed if we are open about who we love, and in that sense, this openness can impose an identity on us (from others).

But if we create that identity ourselves, we take back control of who will define us, seems to me that gay culture has the very specific purpose of defining us to ourselves so that others won't.

 

Not in the slightest.

 

Nope, it's just another one of my secrets that I have to hide. :dry:
Other than that, I'm a pretty normal guy... Just a little crazy.

 

I don't think it defines you. Who we love doesn't define us it the contents of our character that define us.