Having a baby with my ex-girlfriend?

Would you two be living in the same house? If not that might put stress on the child latter on in my opinion.

 

NOOOO! Don't do this. #1, you're gay. #2, a child is only going to send the relationship straight to hell. #3, if that child finds out about this, they may resent you. I was conceived to delay a divorce and that's just another reason I hate my parents.

 

I can't see any good coming out of this kind of situation, especially if you think that it might bring you two closer. Kids put a hell of a strain on even the strongest relationships.

 

If you really want a kid and can just be co-parents then it's worth thinking about but trying to rekindle a straight relationship by having a kid? That is NOT a good idea.

 

This will not end well.

 

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Go for it. But only if you're fine with the possibility of the relationship not working out. As long as you think you can raise the baby without her, I see no reason for you to deny yourself the chance to have a baby.

Both of you want to have kids - that's one of the signs that you'll be a good parent as it's an important quality for new parents to have. Therefore, the child will be brought up in a loving environment, regardless of what happens to your relationship with your ex-girlfriend.

Above all, this opportunity isn't something that arises everyday. I, like you, want children, but can't find the right person.

 

Uh..no.

 

I'm a gay woman. I have a child with my (male, obviously) ex.
DON'T DO IT.
Kids are great. BUt it's hard. There will be heartbreak. Being a single parent is hard. Honestly, if you want kids, do it the 'normal' way (as in adoption, surragacy, etc).
This will not end well. For any of you. Especially the child.

 

This, this exactly. If you're gay...I won't say it's impossible, but it's very unlikely you will be able to make the relationship work, and a baby will only make that harder, not easier. And in time, it's very possible you will grow to resent each other *and* the child.

If you want a kid together (which you CAN do without being romantically involved with one another) it should be because you both want a child, and are prepared to work together to offer it love and support, regardless of where the two of you are at in your relationship - not because you think it will fix the problems in your relationship or bring you closer, because that simply won't happen.

If you're gay, that ain't changin! And even though you may love each other, eventually you will have to ask yourselves if that's enough...or do you BOTH deserve mutual love and attraction on every level? Don't allow fear of being who you are or letting go to hold you OR your ex back from fully experiencing life.

 

Such a horrible idea, especially for the child's sake. :eusa_naug

 

As most people here have said: Don't do it.

It's great that you want a child, but don't have them with her if you're gay. It really will put a strain on your relationship and it will make things so much harder for the child. Think about the child and the other consequences on this one.

 

Well do you love her romantically and/or are into her sexually? You can be gay, but she could be like an exception.

 

That's absolutely possible. And if that's factoring into your decision at all, then I have to agree that this is not a good idea IMO.

 

Don't do it. The situation's going to spiral downwards.

 

My gut's telling me it's a trap.