Thoughts on National Coming Out Day

I don't think it's a bad idea. It might help to encourage some people to come out and perhaps it makes the whole process seem a little less mysterious and clandestine.

But I don't think I'd chose to come out on National Coming Out Day. I'd do it whenever I felt most comfortable.

 

I don't think it's a bad thing but I think you should come out when you feel it's the right time.

 

I definitely agree that you should come out only when you want to and you feel ready to. I think the use of Coming Out Day is that if you have reached this stage but can't find a good time to tell anyone, or you need a courage boost and the knowledge that you are not alone, then it provides an opportunity. It can also serve to get people talking about LGBT issues and coming out even if they are straight.

Last year, I posted an announcement on Facebook that day, in order to come out to my church friends. It worked pretty well, though I don't know how many of them saw it. At the same time, completely independently of me (and I of her), my sister posted a brief status saying she was trans*. It looks like it went well for her too. I think that most of her Facebook friends already knew and it was just confirmation.

 

I sent my dad an email coming out to him today. I have not heard back yet but fingers crossed. Having a day dedicated to coming out helped me I think. It was good to have a deadline even if it was arbitrary.

 

I'm planning to do it today on facebook (my dad, some of his family, my sister and some of my mom's family are on fb) but tell or text my sister first, and then tell/text my mom after.

I'm gonna vote on the poll later, if I do it I'll vote that I came out on 2013's NCOD, if I don't, I'll vote that I plan to do it on a coming out day.

 

It feels like a deadline, which I'm not very comfortable with. The day went over my head mostly.

 

I think it's empowering even if you don't come out today. I believe in energy and we are all connected. I woke up this morning completely proud of being a lesbian and considering coming out to the world. It's not the right time, but I just felt the pull to do it.

I had no idea it was National Coming Out Day. I picked up on the energy flowing through the universe. That positive energy of so many people being okay with themselves is powerful.

 

Geek: I suspected it, which means it wasn't a surprise, but I accepted her as a cis guy until she let me know. I too wonder how common two or more LGBT siblings are.

Anyway. I had a friend come out to me as bi today, which may be because of the day although she didn't mention it. It went well. She was among the first people I came out to.

 

I like the idea of it, if it's not about coming out on that day, but a celebration of whatever day that was for you--a celebration, that being queer is not a curse, but a gift! Giving us a different window and vision of the world... if only we choose to open it together.

---------- Post added 11th Oct 2013 at 12:50 PM ----------

Ann Coulter.. disown your son day? Hmm, does she have children? Why not? What IS her sex life, anyway... since she's so preoccupied with everyone elses. Tell us Ann... who do you love in secret?

 

I think it's a good idea. I get that it makes some people feel pressured, but you're really just putting that on yourselves. If you don't want to use it, there'll be another one next year. I think it's a great way of giving us a talking point to get the coming out conversation started, and I like the idea that loads of people will be coming out on the same day, like we're supporting each other - it made me feel more confident somehow. I've seen some stuff saying it's today and some tomorrow - well, I came out to some people yesterday, some today, and I have another plan for tomorrow, so whatever day it is, I've got it covered lol.

 

I hate seeing all the stuff on my Facebook news feed about National Coming Out Day and wishing it was the right time for me to fully come out.

I did come out to my pet rabbit for what's worth but I think he already kind of knew!

 

I feel as though it is less of a day to come out than just a day to celebrate coming out. It is really hard to do, and deserves some praise.

 

I think it's a good way to get people to think about coming out. It probably gives motivation for people to plan coming out. However, you should come out when you're ready. Whenever you get sick of being in fear of being outed you should come out. I can't think of anything that will make you feel more free.

 

I've been trying not to think about this but I need to come out to my dad as gay. I already came out to him as bi' but that was when I was engaged to a bi' woman. Now that I'm sure about being gay it seems like I should be honest with him. Should I be concerned about his age when telling him something like this? He is seventy-two.

 

Just about all week leading up to Coming Out Day I had been thinking, "Gonna do this, gonna do this!" And so I did it.

I sent the following crappy, on-the-spot poem to my friend, telling her it was a puzzle:

Ill thought and ill despised
Aurorous light stretches through sky --
Many musical colors proclaim:
"Grim has been my lonely soul
Amidst monotony,
Yet on this day my soul say strange truth to set me free!"

I am waiting for a reply, and I hope my cowardly move isn't too complicated ^.^

 

I came out to a select few people last year as gay on NCOD. This year, I wrote that I was transgender in a status. It was already pretty obvious, since I had changed my name on pronouns. I had just never said it in clear terms on facebook. So, I use NCOD as more of a motivation than anything. If I have something to come out about, then I will, but if not, then I won't.