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DO gay men find women sexually attrative?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by fjs, Sep 29, 2013.

  1. fjs

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    I know it might seem like a silly question, but this a question I keep asking myself. I have always found my head turned by women. But at same time I find the idea of having sex with men someting of turn. Could I be bi? Does anyone have these type of feelings? XX
     
  2. Phoenix

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    there are a lot of women i find sexually attractive. i don't consider myself bisexual though because i'm not happy dating or being in a relationship with one; even though i can have a good time here and there.
     
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    There's a difference between finding someone attractive, and being attracted to them. Being attracted to the same-sex shouldn't stop someone from being able to tell when someone is good looking, and being able to appreciate that from an aesthetic point of view.
     
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    The more important question than who you find attractive is who you can envision yourself in a relationship with, and who you enjoy the idea of sex with. Maybe that's just men, just women, or maybe it's both. Or maybe the answers to those two questions are different. No matter what the answer is what's important is that you're doing what makes you happy, not what you think you're "supposed" to do because of some kind of "label".
     
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    I'm pretty sure they would not be gay if they did...
     
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    They wouldn't be "gay" then if they did. Sexual orientation is not a choice. If they did, what would be the whole point of coming out? Why would there be a nature vs. nurture debate or a fight over civil rights? Bi would probably be the best description of your orientation and your feelings. There's nothing wrong with it. It's hard for bi youth to find openly bi role models. Many of them hide behind the straight label and some even the gay one.
     
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    I can't speak for others, but as for me...NO.
     
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    No question is silly, except that one...kidding!

    I try to see the positive in things so I hate to define something by a negative, but being gay is, by definition, the absence of sexual arousal from the opposite sex. Needless to say, definitions are, by definition, limiting, but it's good enough for most of us.

    By the way, this is not to say that a gay person can't see and appreciate the beauty of a beautiful woman, but generally, that's as far as it goes.
     
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    I can easily determine that a woman is pretty. But I'm no more able to feel anything sexual for them then I could for a flower or a sunset. Sexually, women don't exist as far as I'm concerned.
     
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    Sexuality is also a continuum! You might be anywhere between "straight" and "gay" and there are many, many places in between. Society just doesn't seem to recognize that.

    On that note, there's sometimes a difference between romantic and sexual attraction. I'm probably sexually attracted to girls more than guys, but I've always been attracted to guys more than girls romantically. The latter's gradually starting to change the more open I am with myself about my sexuality.

    Just keep in mind that sexual orientation isn't as black and white as society would like it to be!
     
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    No.
    :lol:
     
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    I do find some women to be very very beautiful, but when I try to envision myself getting involved in sex with them, it just doesn't do anything for me. Naked Boobs are gross O_O
     
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    Sexually attractive? definately not.

    Beautiful? Yeah, but then I don't think beauty is restricted by gender.
     
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    I can find some women pretty but i'm not sexually attracted.
     
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    I've considered myself as being on the pole of gay. Although I have to admit that some girls can be attracting to the eye, I could never imagine myself in a relationship with one pr even having sex with one. Boys, boys, boys, sighs.
     
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    @fjs: You're probably bi. Welcome to the team! (jk)

    I've heard enough from gay guys that women just do nothing for them. Not to sound crass, but let your d*** do the talking. Can you get it up when thinking about guys AND girls? If so, you're probably bi. (BTW, this doesn't have to be equally all the time. Just with enough regularity with both genders...)
     
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    What if I find women's boobs attractive, also I find pregnant women a trun on; but I am not sure if I find vaginas sexy. I am over 30 I have always felt that I haven't met the right girl. In general I am always very comfortable around females and have many close female friends. However whenever girls take an interest in me when I am out and about I always manager to find excesses. I often like them and kick myself later on.

    I do have to admit that I have always been fascinated by Gay men's bums, I am wondered what if is like to give a blow job.
     
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    I find women very attractive and I can get excited by their glamour and beauty but I realize its like how a straight woman admires them.
    Many women's clothing designers are gay men. I think there is something alluring and attractive about femininity and it can be confusing if you haven't accepted that you're gay.
     
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    Looking past the black and white areas of the issue, this is actually an interesting question. I was just talking about it with a friend a few days ago. He identifies as gay and he came out to his parents as gay even though he can feel attracted to anyone in the right circumstances and has been with both men and women. The reason he identifies as being gay rests on the fact that he can only develop feelings for guys and, therefore, would hardly ever enter a relationship with a girl. At the end of the day, it's all about the term you're most comfortable with and what makes more sense in your head.
     
  20. fjs

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    This is a post I put on the thread "question for gay men?"

    It is a similar question to I have asked and indeed am still asking. I have always found women attractive and they still turn my head. I even like there bodies especially there boobs, and pregnant women. I really enjoy women's company as well.

    However at the age of 33; I know I feel like I should have figured this out a long time ago. I am not sure about how I feel about the physical act of having sex with a woman. I have been curious about gay mens bums, from an early age. I have also wondered what it would be like to give a blow job. Even recently began to imagine being stimulated anally. These doubts I think have always stopped me from really looking for a female partner. Whenever girls have shown an interest in me I have managed to put them off. I have always used the excuse that I have not met the right the girl, but is this the case?

    I still find girls really good looking, and have many crushes on them. But I am increasing finding male bodies beautiful as well. I guess I must be at least bi or possibly gay. I would not be comfortable saying this in real life. I have also not excepted this yet.

    Also I wonder does anyone else know what I am talking about? Good luck to everyone XX

    ---------- Post added 27th Feb 2017 at 10:22 AM ----------

    To add to this I have always had an attraction to Lesbian's, I don't know if this helped me think that I was not a Gay/bi man. Perhaps it allowed me to keep an eye on Gay/Lesbian/bi issues, without looking at the men, or admitting it.

    I am not proud of this but I have watched porn before. I know that porn is not always realistic. I would start off watching lesbian porn, but after a while I would get bored and get drawn to Gay male porn. I have often to be honest I felt ashamed of myself for enjoying the male porn.

    This is just how I have feel; I do not want to disrespect anyone, or their sexuality. I believe everyone is different. Thanks for reading, and again good luck to everyone on here.