Hi you guys. I'm Kyle, i'm 16 and this is my first post. A horrible thing happened to me today. I'm bisexual. I enjoy both straight and gay porn. Sadly, my mom caught me seeing the second one! I remained calm and explained to her that was all out of curiosity, I just wanted to know what's like men together. She said she understood my curiosity but came saying that was gross, was a sin, and I should keep away from it. I appreciate gay porn since I found out this condition of mine. I cannot in anyway let her know about it, so I said it was just a moment thing, I was just curious. But she came saying she was going to take me to church, making me pray and stuff. I told her she should relax, I was ok and I would not do it again. But she keep rolling eyes at me. How can I make her chill out? Don't tell me to come out because, you know... I don't make plans of telling her one day. My idea is to leave town when I reach 18 and go to New York. There I'll be able to love anybody. In my view, we fall for the person, not for their genre. I'm ok with my condition. But in a religous family, you know, right? She's not convinced with my curiosity talk and I'm very nervous she tells it to other family members. She once caught me watching straight porn and was the same thing. Today was worse because you know, it's GAY porn. The truth is that I like it, I really do, and I told her was curiosity because I had to find an excuse. And it really is normal, in fact, that was how I began watching gay porn: being curious. I just want her to chill out. She's not on my feet now because she went to bed. How can I make her forget about it? Please help me, if I can't make her chill out, my life will become a hell. Sorry for any writing mistake.
It is hard to unsee what has been seen, and given the circumstances you have described, there is nothing that will 'chill' your mother other than time.
well, so it's porn that set her religious stuff off? heh. depending on how her environment is, she might or never get out of that religion-induced conservatism. I would just.... I don't know. Does she have a thing against things like Harry Potter and gaming?
Nope. She doesn't even know what Harry Potter is. But what's your point? Thanks for taking your time to answer me.
He asked about potter because the parents that see that as black magic and satanic tend to be even harsher than ones that just have it out for gays. My dad was like that and used to make me destroy my games like final fantasy and when people are that deep into the doctrines its a real bitch to even talk to them rationally because they aren't accepting or open minded
I'm not going to tell you to come out, but I am going to ask, what happens if you hit 18 and for whatever reason you CAN'T move to New York and are stuck with your mum? Or if you fall for a guy before then and have to try and keep it a big secret until then?
When I reach 18 I will be independent. I cannot go to New York yet because I'm underage! She won't let me go. And don't worry, all guys here are jerks, they don't want commitment and I won't date them. I'm waiting for the right person. It can be a girl or a boy, whatever will be I'm not gonna introduct him/her to my mom because she is very critical. In NY i'll be far away from her
Well, there's not much you can do until she forgets about it. How much time did it take after the straight porn episode? Till then, put only one earphone on or restrict yourself to pictures... You have all my support for the next two years
Time is key. Oh boy. Through the years.. my mom found my first love letter (that I destroyed and ripped into pieces and through behind a basket lol smh) I was like 10 then. She caught me with the porn maybe twice and caught on to my attraction to a friend in high school.. she just gave me time to figure it out and eventually let me be. I know your situation is slightly different. I'd say just continue to refute it if you're not ready to come out and hope that time will make a difference.
Allow me to re-phrase. What happens when you get to 18 and find yourself of age but not in a financial position to support a move to New York?
I'll be financially stable by then. I got a job, and my mom gives me allowance (which i've been saving since last year).
My mom caught me watching gay porn at 16 years old too. She of course was disgusted as well and she is religious. We never really talked about it nor did she say anything to me about it. I came out when i was around 18. It's taken my mother a great deal of time to accept that I am Queer and I like guys.
I reeeeeally hope your right, but I'll ask again. What happens if you're not! Let's say you lose your job or end up with some big expense and your savings are gone. Or cost of living in NY goes up even higher or any one of the multitude of other things that could mess up the best laid plans of any person. Moreover, considering your other thread about not coming out ever, if your plan goes fine and you do move immediately to New York, what then? Do you just cut your family out of your life or are you going to try and break the news and patch things up long distance?
If it's porn that she's bothered by the most, tell her James Dobson says that masturbation is normal for boys and parents need to understand that. Since he's the big Focus on the Family guru, maybe that will help!
Oh my. You're really into my story xD I don't think of these things happening. And if everything goes fine, I will keep contact with her, but throug internet. I'll come visit her sometimes. And I talked to her is everything fine by now. She already forgot. I may freaked out a little bit (just like her) but i'm fine now! ---------- Post added 30th Aug 2013 at 06:48 PM ---------- It's not that. She is religous. She also says that masturbation is a sin, it must be the devil trying to take me and all that crap.
Oh boy. She thinks masturbation is a sin? That's really rough. I would avoid any and all conversations about your sexuality with her until you are out of her house.....the best thing you could do is just not talk at all about it she doesn't sound like she'll ever change her opinion on sex the least of which gay sex.
