When did you accept yourself?

I never knew or even though about the fact I might be gay when I was growing up - just that I'd never felt any attraction to men and couldn't envision a future with a man, even though I'd love to have my own family. When I first realised I'd fallen for a girl, at the age of 23, my only worry was whether or not there was any chance of her liking me back... I didn't see any reason to question my feelings. I guess I'm just lucky??

 

I think it was 2011 when I fully accepted myself. And short after I came out to my first person. But I guess I felt completely comfortable with who I am the day I came out to my mom. It was february this year.

 

This year, around April/May. I started to feel content while coming out in April, but it was only by around May that I could confidently say the words "I'm gay" and not have to paraphrase it somehow. To think that just six months ago, I couldn't properly accept who I was.

 

Yesterday (I think) after EC helped me work through a number of issues that were slowing down my pace of understanding and acceptance. The thought of telling people doesn't seem to scare me anymore either, feels like a natural thing to mention in the correct situation.

 

I finally accepted myself when I was 22 years old after going through a vicious cycle of accepting myself and not accepting myself. I was becoming more open with myself as I got older but it took till age of 22 to officially accept myself as a gay person.

 

My "acceptance story" or whatever you want to call it is honestly really corny omg. I had struggled with my sexuality since about 11-12 years of age, occasionally looking at the guys in my dad's Men's Health magazine and getting angry (and even hitting myself) at myself for finding them hot. I was pretty mean to myself and unpleasant until I turned 14 and was going into high school. One night I started to get curious (and less mean to myself) and I watched this "gay" movie/musical called Were the world mine. I remember after watching it realising that I wanted a relationship just like the main character, Timothy, and soon after accepted that I just liked dudes a whole lot. Again kinda corny, and sorry for the length but that's how I officially accepted myself.

 

well i didn't have to, i've always known i liked guys, i just didn't know the term for what liking guys was... the problem is society and friends accepting ME... i've always loved myself for who i am. i stay strong! nobody can mess with my fragile heart!!

 

I accepted myself right before I had to tell my mom 3 days before she died, none of us knew she was going to die so quickly but I felt like if I didn't tell her I was gay I wouldn't have ever come to terms with it. It was the last thing I ever said to her and I'm really proud I did.

 

Around march last year I started seeing girls a little... differently lol. I was seriously confused between then til maybe june/july. It wasn't that I didn't want to be bi, but I just didn't know if I actually was. But as I came to terms with it I was cool with it.

 

I realized I was different at around 12 or 13, then questioned my sexuality at about 15. I was in denial until 18 and was a very moody person. I just could accept myself that way because I thought society did not accept those kinds of people. Eventually, slowly but surely, I accepted myself. I think I was 19, almost 20, when I completely accept myself for who I was. Watching videos on youtube about people like me really helped to accept myself too, I came to realize that it was not unnatural and that it all depended on me. It took many tears, heart aches, and head aches, but in the end I did it.

 

I´ve never not accepted myself. My parents always said I could come home with a girfriend or boyfriend.
(They didn´t know then that I would take one home that wouldn´t leave :lol: )

 

The moment I searched for porn the first time... I was like... Ok I`m gay.
It took me 2 minutes to accept the fact that I like guys after I found out that I do.

 

I think I'm currently learning to accept it. It's kind of a long process I know I like girls, but it's still hard for me to talk about.

 

Started to come to the realisation around the early 2011's and I fully accepted myself in summer 2012 when I came out as liking boys but then accepting myself as transgender took a bit longer because deep down I always knew but coming to terms with it was a bit harder but I have finally accepted myself just recently after research etc... :icon_bigg

 

I would say summer 2011-2012. Before that I spent about 6 months trying to put two and two together.

Bumpy ride that one. Never went into denial, though, only doubt.

 

Still questioning, but I suppose I'm rather settled. Attracted to no one, and I don't think anyone's attracted to me. I could be wrong, of course. Though if someone who is gay likes me, I wouldn't mind.

-Emulator

 

22 July 2013 x]

 

I fully accepted myself last month

 

I don't think I've accepted anything. I've acknowledged what I am, but that's about it.

 

i always knew i liked dudes more thn i did girls.. but i didnt come to terms with it til my freshman year in high school when the guy i was crushing on, we became best friends and he trusted me enough to tell me he was gay and tht he like me. when i heard this i accepted who i was and i admitted to him how i felt towards him. we dated for about 2 years and things took a turn for the worst. it was bad enough to make me retreat to being more straight because i couldnt trust guys anymore.. so comes a double life. i mean i still accept tht i like dudes and chick but.. out in public i put on my straight persona and when im in a private setting my gay side flurishes. still living like tht today