I have a questions or situations regarding masturbation: 1). I often masturbate as a form of stress relief when I am stressed in my daily life. When I do this, it is not really a form of sexual expression; more so, it is associated with the de-stressed and relaxing effect that I experience after ejaculation/orgasm. This kind of presents a problem because it's not convenient--sometimes, I feel I have to do it when at work and this involves going into the bathroom and doing the deed. Does anyone else experience this and how do you deal with it? Do you use masturbation as kind of an instant stress relief tool even when you're not really sexually aroused (sometimes, I do it when I mad and not even thinking about sex)?
It sounds like you use it as a mood regulator... Other kinds of mood regulators, if such a term could be used, could be music, alcohol, talking to others... There are many ways one can do so. With that said, if you have to do this at work, I'm not so sure that it's not affecting your life. Could you try to find other ways to deal with stress? It might be a good experiment to try out. To answer your questions, I have not dealt with this, unfortunately, so I can't say much more on this topic.
What's the deal here? I don't know if there's such a thing as too little or too much masturbation, though I'm sure someone has studied that. Obviously, an orgasm relaxes someone. A great time to do it is before going to sleep. One sleeps a little better.
I can relate. At one point it became an addiction. It's important to understand the underlying reasons for why you're acting that way.
Orgasm causes release of dopamine, which is a mood regulator, so it isn't surprising that you've learned to masturbate to reduce stress. The risk here is a pattern that seems to be developing where you're using masturbation in stressful situations, because if that becomes your coping strategy, then you develop an unhealthy relationship with masturbating. I'd suggest that you work on developing other ways of de-stressing yourself when you have anxiety or anger or stress. Learning some simple meditation or breathing techniques can help to stimulate the same neural pathways that calm you down.
Well. This is one of those complicated situations. A lot of people would say that they masturbate for a lot of reasons- they're horny, they can't sleep, they're stressed, they're looking for a release and quite often just because they're bored. And while masturbation (or any sexual activity) might be a stress reliever, it shouldn't be the primary means of stress relief. If you're in your mid-20s and you're sneaking off at work to masturbate to "relieve stress", you might want to think about how you're dealing with stressful situations in general. There are better ways to handle stress.
Sometimes I do, as awkward as it is to admit. Even if it sounds weird, I did one time just because I'd just watched an intense horror movie and was freaking out over every little thing in the bathroom while taking a shower, and it was the only way I could calm myself down and not have a freak attack! Plus, everyone else in the house was asleep so I knew when I left the bathroom it would be pitch-black. Besides, if you want something done right, you've gotta do it yourself, am I right? :lol:
lmao ^^ love it. And yes, I too masturbate to relieve stress/boredom/anxiety. I've also done it when I awake early as mentioned above.. I've never felt the urge to do it under any other circumstances though. Doesn't cross my mind while i'm working or out and about.
While yes it is common to masturbate as a way to relieve stress, It is only really a problem when it interferes with your life or you feel that you cannot de-stress without it. In your case it sounds like you meet both criteria. You should try to find other ways to de-stress, Maybe try meditation like chip suggested or try to find a few songs that calm you down. One of the things that I have noticed is that if I am getting stressed out or angry I can use music to calm myself down however it's kind of weird because I listen to the music that matches my mood to calm myself down instead of music that matches the mood I want to be in. If I am royally pissed and I have to listen to happy music it makes me angrier, but if I listen to music that has some anger to it I start to level off and calm down. Just my $0.02
I don't think you should masturbate if you're not sexually aroused. Masturbating because you're angry? Have you tried seeing a specialist?
Honestly, masturbation only serves a purely sexual purpose for me, and it doesn't do anything for me when I can't fall alseep, it actually keeps me up. No pun intended haha
