Gay Or Not

Ah most people I say "no" to - although they're not asking seriously.
The other day a 6 year old asked me if I want a boyfriend and I said "no" - that's probably as close as I've got to saying I'm gay when directly asked!


My sisters friends mum is part of a political party and had people over (including the prime minister) when she she outed her son (and basically told her son she knows he's gay).
That's a pretty awesome way to do it.

 

I've been asked several times if I'm gay. I've never once said "yes." I would even go out of my way to pick and choose random girls I knew and talk about how hot they were with my male friends and cousins even though I had no interest in them.

 

I think if someone did ask me then I would certainly say "YES"
I have nothing to hide, everyone else knows already that I am gay so why hide ?

 

My sister is the only one who has asked me, and I said yes
If someone else did I would probably freak out and say "I don't know" or something

 

Yes, last week when my family and I went out for lunch the topic of lesbians came up and my brother accused me of being one. I denied it, and instantly felt guilty for lying, but I'm just not ready to do that yet, and I'm not sure if I ever will say it to him.

 

A few times.

First one that I remember clearly was when I was 20 or 21, and my doctor asked my about my orientation during a physical. All that I could say at the time was "I'm not sexually active, so I don't see why it matters". She then repeated the question and I told her I was straight

Then my best friend (who I'm now out to) asked me at a bar we frequent, and I denied it again.

We were at another bar, and some random girl asked the both of us if we were gay. I just laughed and was like "of course not!"

I've made a resolve that if anyone asks me in the future, I'm not going to lie. But as with a lot of people in this thread, no one has asked.

 

Yes. I was at a marching band event, and there was a very tall, slender black guy who was part of the flags. My "friend" said he was so gay, and I said "so what? Does that bother you?" and he said "oh, sorry, are you gay? I didn't know" (that wasnt sarcastic) Well the whole band was there, and i was only out to like 3 people at the time, so i said no. Later when I came out, he said he was mad at me. Not because I was gay, but because I lied about it. I was kind of just like... screw you, i can bet a majority of gay people lie to protect their identities before they are out. It was interesting to say the least.

Since ive come out, no one has asked me to my face, but ill say yes if they do ^_^

 

When people ask me if I'm gay i say "yes, very" and then I walk away.

 

There haven't been as many times of people asking me if I was gay and I said no as much as there were perfect situations for me to come out and say I was bisexual but never mustered up the nerve to do so. Last time I actually said yes to someone asking me if I was gay/bi was when I told my Mom and my sister came up to us and assumed what I had said and asked. Which I confirmed.

 

Most of the time if people ask me if I'm gay I said yes.

However, my grandfather on my dad's side is relatively homophobic. He was trying to talk to me about boys. He asked if I had a boyfriend and I said no. He then started probing and asked if I was gay. I lied and said no.

I'm not ready to get into this with him just yet, as I'm not sure how he will handle it. I am currently financially depended on him for help with my college tuition.

 

My dad asked me at least 2 or 3 times before I told him. My mom asked once.

 

A time where I said yes, when my mum asked me the first time, a time I say no every time since then as I found out she is a homophobic bigot that would rather kick her son out than have a gay one and that anyone can change, so my non-social life is a lie

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Also i say no to anyone at school unless we are alone and i am close with that person then i might say yes ^_^ ^-^

 

This. My mum asked me at least three times growing up if I was gay and I always said no. Later, when I came out to her, she asked me why I lied those previous times and I had to point out that I hadn't. I still don't think she gets it. Actually I expect she thinks I will eventually come out as gay and coming out as Bi was getting my foot in the door, so to speak.

 

Another story about the pansexual bigendered friend:

We were discussing "her" "boyfriend" (who was also bigender), and how he had recently come out as gay. Since I still had yet to figure out my sexual orientation, I said "I'm not gay. I've tried watching gay porn and nothing had come" Little did I know it would be weeks til I found out otherwise (pornhub doesn't really catch me, still. Some of it's a bit exaggerated. Then again, I enjoy porn in a much different way than most people do).

A FEW WEEKS LATER:

I came out to the same friend, who I pretty much knew would be supportive, since she had pride stuff pretty much everywhere she went XD

 

I pretty much denied it for quite a while until recently and I just switch the topic if something does come up. I'm not actively denying it now as I was a few months ago however I'm not pressing the issue actively.

I have come out to some friends who I know don't have an issue with it but that is about the limit of it.

There was a time a few years ago when I was about 16 as a sophomore in HS where I admitted to being Bi to some girls who I'm pretty sure were at least bi; I was willing to bridge that gap then but I wasn't quite sure If I was fully "Gay" or not.

That changed shortly after .

So I kind of used bisexuality as a spring board, but I don't see anything wrong with that as long as people realize that that's not all that it is.

 

My mom asked me if I was gay once. I said no without thinking, would have been a good time to explain things.

 

I've been asked that a few times and I've always said no. I'm not ready to come out yet but I'm planning to come out when I go to college.

 

After being asked by the same person three times, I finally gave in and confessed. No one else has ever asked me to my face.