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How old were you when you lost your virginity

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by StefaniW, Jun 7, 2013.

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When did you lose your virginity

  1. Under 18 (specify age)

    19.1%
  2. 18-30 (specify)

    22.8%
  3. Over 30 (specify)

    0.7%
  4. Haven't yet

    57.4%
  1. BradThePug

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    I am still a virgin.
     
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    *nodding* That premium quality thing is very true... I dub thee Martjain "creme de la creme" of the top quality. hehe ^ ^
     
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    Still a virgin in every way. Its pretty sad actually. havent lost my v-card and definately havent had my first kiss yet
     
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    No Orgasm took place, so I guess we were just fooling around, so by that definition, I am still a Virgin. :slight_smile:
     
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    Most women are able to have and enjoy sex without reaching an orgasm, and I'm sure some men can, too. Penetration isn't necessary, either, and in fact some people prefer other forms, ie oral sex, mutual masturbation, frot/tribadism.
     
  6. TruE BlisS

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    19...There are times I wish I hadn't...kudos to those who are still virgins !
     
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    A few weeks ago and then for anal on Friday.
     
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    I had the pressure, I felt sad that I was "still" a virgin. So when I lost it I was just relieved that the pressure was over. It wasn't anything special. Just the pressure was gone. I would like everyone who is a virgin to try and get rid of that pressure in other ways.

    It will be a lot more special with that special person of yours! Then you will actually feel something. :slight_smile:

    Find out what the reason for your pressure is and work on it. Are you ashamed because you're so old and still a virgin? Are you worried that everyone else has already "done it"? Are you worried that you don't know how to do it with the right person and want to practise first?

    RELAX! Stop comparing yourself to others. We're gay etc. so we're different anyway! The age does not matter, you're older now than you've ever been before and therefore feel "old". But when we're older and look back we will realise that we were not ready if the pressure was the reason. And there is theoretical practise too, which you can do without needing to actually "do it". And when you find the right person, they don't mind! They will probably appreciate it more if you didn't lose your v-card with a random person.
     
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    Haven't lost it yet, and don't want to lose it yet.
     
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    18, just about 6 months ago. I regret it, I had no feelings for her but (I found out) she had for me, witch made everything very complicated. I felt like a pig, and I guess I acted like one to...
     
  11. StefaniW

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    @Sadepeura,

    Thank you for your post. I have often felt that pressure and very recently nearly succumbed to it. But you are right: the first time will be soo much more special if it's with a special person.

    Hugs!

    @Julia,

    I'm sorry that you had to be in that situation. Sometimes it's really hard to gauge what another person wants out these types of situations. Hope your next time has less drama(*hug*)
     
  12. I was 18 with a dude. I got to second base once with a girl.
     
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    I lost mine when I was 13 with my best friend Andrew. He got weird afterwards and I kind of just accepted the fact that I am gay. So our friendship ended pretty quickly afterwards.
     
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    I'm what people say a "Half virgin" ...don't ask

    I gave my ex boyfriend AJ oral at 12......
    Don't ask me why that happened, I was curious but also pressured.

    and i did something with another guy at 13, ...it was nasty.


    I have never had sex with a girl or had a proper kiss with one.
     
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    I was 15.. oral on a guy I cared about but felt very very forced......I was actually kinda traumatized by this.

    So I always considered 17 was the age I lost my virginity...with my 2nd and only other boyfriend....that I wasted 10 years with.

    I'm 30 now (today actually! :grin:) but no girl yet. I'm sure it will be MUCH better when it happens with a woman. So I'm still a gay-girl-virgin :wink:
     
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  17. StefaniW

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    @Gaytheist,

    You are a gold star (a gay person that has never had sex with the opposite sex). And, yes. I think it's natural to be sort of curious as to what it would be like, even if it doesn't arouse you. If it *does* arouse you then mebbe you are bisexual? I dunno.

    And, heeey, SwirlingOcean, happy 30th! Hope you find someone special reaal soon!
     
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    I was 16 when I lost my virginity to a 24-year-old woman. The last time I had sex was with her, when I was 18. It's been about 4 years now. But I'm perfectly fine with that. I will only have sex with someone I love.
     
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    What does the OP mean by losing virginity:
    a) just messing around sexually, or
    b) oral sex, or
    c) vaginal or anal intercourse?

    Without knowing the intent, it's hard to accurately answer the question.
     
  20. drwinchester

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    However you define sex, I suppose. I think of it as doing anything with a partner that leads to orgasm/attempt to orgasm. So I count oral/messing around. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: