When i was little, i felt like one of the girls. All of my friends in primary school were girls. Its not until i was in the later stage of primary school that i even learnt what 'Gay' was. I would hear people calling me that many times; but i just took it in my stride and ignored them. I don't really remember having crushes on anyone in primary school except this girl who i knew for a few months before she left to new zealand. Secondary school came and it was hard trying to fit in; i always felt like i was different to everyone else. Thankfully i found a girl who took me into her group and we are still best friends to this day. The girl came out to me as bi about 2 years ago but i still haven't told her about myself. My mannerisms like the way i walk is girly. When i watch porn i masturbate to both women and men. Relationship wise; i wouldn't mind being with a girl or guy. The thing im wondering is am i actually gay? because i feel like i should be because of my feminine nature and i've always thought bi males are more masculine than gay men. or is it just me?
I in the past have dated mostly feminine men, and women before I came out as completely into women. But many of the feminine men I dated where either straight or bisexual, and still to this day, none of them are completely gay. I believe you may be bisexual, but that's by what you said. But, there's no worries gay, straight, bisexual, transgender, it's all equally excepted here. <3
Well I'm gay and quite masculine, so really it just depends on the person. I can be sexually attracted to men and women, but I've only ever been romantically attracted to other men. Whichever label you "are" is completely up to you. I could claim being bi, but I know I want a relationship with another man, so I use the "gay" label. Ultimately, you decide what you want to be called. Gay, Bi, Straight, or none at all: whatever floats your boat!
Sexuality is something that can't really be passed off as a "Phase". It's like Gender Identity, in a way. It doesn't really change. In response to your original post, I don't think you are Gay because of your femininity. People seem to think that this is the case, but it isn't. I also don't think you are gay/bi because of using straight porn with both genders. Lots of people use straight porn even if they are gay (i.e me) However, if you feel like you are sexually attracted to guys, then its a possibility
sooo, i'm queer. I like anyone, gender is irrelevant. I'm crushing on someone who doesn't identify as any gender! Do you think maybe you're queer? Being feminine does not make you gay, those are two different wave links. And being feminine does not make you trans. I have a lot of metro guy friends. Might be because I work in retail But they're all straight! I do also have some feminine, gay friends, but they're men and want to be men. than again i have some gay friends who are very masculine. Don't feel like you need to have a certain sexuality because you act a certain way. Look inside yourself and find what you want and desire, and you'll find your answer.
well in a way, lots of people change sexuality especially as a teenager, most that i know of ended up straight and got married so it could just be that you are trying to find your identity and your sexuality but who knows? anyway i am going to sound so dumb but what actually is 'queer'?
Queer means you like anyone regardless of gender. The term gender-blind or pansexual are also used. The concept itself purposefully rejects the gender binary, ie; the idea that there are only two genders. Lots of people use the term bisexual, but that is limited to liking men and women. Queer is just the term that is used in my LGBTQ community. Gender identity is what you yourself identify as gender-wise. It is your private sense of your own gender, regardless of your biological make-up. If you google it, it will explain in a lot more detail. The two really tie in together, because being queer i can be attracted to someone who identifies as neither a man or a woman.
I'm confused about my Gender Identity because i hate some aspects of my body. I hate my facial and body hair and i shave it off whenever it grows back and i also hate my shoulders and i wish they were narrower. Does this make me transgender?
Not all gay men are feminine. Not all straight men are super masculine. Everyone is different. You sound bisexual to me. ---------- Post added 18th May 2013 at 10:34 AM ---------- I don't think so. A lot of people gwt rid of all their body hair these days and we all havw things about ourselves we wish we could change. I hate my big thighs but that doesn't mean I want to be a man (ie their legs are generally much smaller)
im sorry if im making this confusing. this does not make you transgender, wanting to have your body a certain way does not mean you want to be a girl i have a male friend who went through a rough patch when we were a bit younger and he had a lot of the same troubles. We was very confused about what he wanted (which led to drug abuse and self harm), he actually transitioned (with out surgery), he changed his name then, but transitioned again after about a year. He had all the same desires as you, no body hair and narrower shoulders. He lost a bunch of weight and got clean and now he is a man (his birth gender) but kept the female name he chose. Don't worry about making up your mind, you have time to figure this out. Being as young as you are, your confusion may fade over time and in a few years you could know exactly what you want
