Girls, I need help. As you can problably see on my account, I'm not out yet. I have no idea how to do something like that. I'm also not possibly 100% sure if I'm into girls, I really think I am, but, how do you really know? Were you girls able to talk about it with someone, before really coming out? And as well, how did you guys came out, how did you told it? P.S. Hope there are not many grammar mistakes, English isn't my first language.. You guys should help me improve my English writing, so correct me whenever you feel like it! (*hug*)
I'd had a chat about it a couple of times with some close friends but not given away anything. I came out on a spur of the moment thing. I'd worked out previously I liked both genders from drunk snogs etc and then went and got completed wankered on holiday then told my best friend. Maybe it was the dutch courage but I had a little cry when he said he didn't care and we were still best mates. Nothing's changed except now he gives me banter about hot guys he catches me looking at. A happy ending all around. Now I gotta work out how to telly my parents
I came out during a huge confessions session with my friend. We haven’t talked about it since, but the first day after I told her we talked about my orientation. I think it helped me put most remaining things in perspective. She knows I am still questioning myself and is waiting for me to bring up talk about being gay. Just knowing I have someone IRL is a comfort. As for really knowing, it can be hard. I personally think deciding is especially hard if certain that males are a yes. Me, I don’t know if guys are a yes. But I definitely can see myself with another girl, (and have been I guess), and since realizing that I see myself with another female that is how I play things out in my head.
Your English is quite good. My parents found gay porn on my laptop and that clued them in. The first thing you need to do is figure out who you can talk to. Who is that one person you can trust? It doesn't have to be your parents. The first people you should tell are those who you best know can support you, then work from there. Gl! <3
Thanks for the reply. Yeah I still also need to really figure out if I'm into girls.. I have never had a real relationship so I feel like I can't really say who I am, so for right now I don't like to put a label on myself. I guess I will figure it out, and maybe I will find someone to tell what's bothering me. Thanks anyway & hope to talk to you again!
It depends on how your friends and family are! Are they accpeting of people in general or very conservative? My friends where great about it, I actually told them at randomly, but I planned a long time before telling my best friend. We had four bottles of wine, cheese and some bad high school movies and after two bottles I felt comfident enought telling her. She was not at all suprised and said she have known for a long time. I think the best thing is to feel comfortable, if you feel better drunk then be drunk just don't tell enyone your gay while drinking that you haven't planned telling.
I didn't talk about with anyone before coming out, but that's just me not liking to talk about things. When I came out I knew the majority of people that I was coming out to wouldn't have an issue with it. I just casually slipped it into conversations with people because I didn't have a reason to be worried, a make a big thing out of it. How you come out depends on how accepting those around you are and how comfortable you are with it. There is now "perfect" time to come out (in my opinion). I just went with my gut (I was questioning for quite sometime).Letters can be a good way to come out to people. I came out over facebook and text to a few people. I just wouldn't recommend doing it when drinking, (not saying you do or don't drink).
