Did you choose?

i agree with you , take for example gay parents who children turn out to be saight, there is a gay family whos youtube channel i follow (depfox) they are a great family 2 gay men raising a son and daughter and the son who is now 12 has told them he is straight and says he has feelings for girls, and he grew up in a gay environment went to pride prop 8 rallies his best friend has 2 moms and yet he is still straight, so i firmly belive its not nature or nuture or anything else , that its just who we are.

 

Mix purple, you don't believe that it is a genetic trait? You think that we magically just are a specific orientation. Good for you, I suppose...

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Not nature of nurture.... You think that we are just magically one orientation or another...

 

You can't choose your orientation. It may feel like you've chosen it, but really, you did not.

Try this article out for size.

 

I never chose to be gay. I was raised in the same house and in the same way as my brothers and never knew anything other than straight couples so there was no nurturing me to be gay. As others have said, life would be easier if I was straight, but I'm not.

As for bisexual people "choosing" to be gay, I guess I see it as identifying as gay to simplify it. You are still bi, but at the gay end of the scale. But I'm not bi so maybe I'm totally wrong on that and I imagine it's different for everyone.

Even if being gay is a choice, why should that prevent someone from marrying a person of the same gender? It's kinda hard to think about because if people weren't naturally gay they wouldn't even think about having a same gender spouse. I think the fact that people are so passionate and dedicated to this and other equality issues shows that our sexuality is very real, intrinsic and meaningful to us. Love and attraction are powerful human feelings and they won't be defeated.

 

Did I choose who I am attracted to? No. Did I choose to act on those attractions? Yes.

 

you totally misunderstood me, i did not say i just think we are magically one orientation i said i dont belive that its nuture the environment does not make us gay, i believe we are born that way so then yes i guess i do believe its a genetic trait.I have no idea why you are getting all bitchy with me.

 

Well, even if you didn't mean it, you specifically said
" Not nature or nurture" which does imply that it just magically appears out of nowhere. I am sorry to badger you on the exact presisions of your speech, but I am still annoyed with you for calling me a racist, something you have still not appollagised with regards to...