Top or Bottom?

I topped before I bottomed because the guy I was with at the time asked me to. Some time later, and with a different guy, I bottomed because he asked me to. I didn't really have strong feelings about either option or anal in general, really.

I've never really seen it in terms of dominance or submission, actually. Then again, I've had friends tell me I'm a bit...intense. So maybe that cancels those sorts of feelings out?

Historically, anal has done relatively little for me. Doesn't hurt and feels Ok, but not the sort of earth-shattering be all/end all experience that a lot of porn (and many folks here) make it out to be/apparently experience. Topping involves condoms so a lot less sensation. Bottoming feels Ok, but there are other things that are much more intense. Then again, maybe that's just because the bulk of my bottom experience was with someone who didn't really care whether I was having any fun or not.

My partner and I have rarely bothered with it (he's not all that into it either) although after all the discussion of it here, we're toying with revisiting the subject.

Todd

 

I don't know...both, I guess. I have no sexual experience.

 

I have no interest in anal sex. I'd do it with a partner, I guess, but I'm never going to seek it out.

 

Well, firstly, I'd like to tell you that there are plenty of guys out there who are not into anal, and enjoy other means of intimacy better.

That being said, the whole anal thing can be very passionate and "earth shattering" if you are with someone you love and care about.
As for my story, I am mostly a top, though I am versatile. Yes, condoms can reduce sensation, but there are other ways to compensate for it. In my experience, the longer you last in there, the better you feel. Also if you and your partner are both tested for STDs, you can always bareback.
In regards to my few recent bottoming experiences, these were great too. I bottomed to a guy I was dating am year back for the first time. I tried it again recently with a straight friend who wanted to experiment. It was really fun, to be honest, I am developing a taste of being a bottom.

Conclusion, I enjoy both in different ways that can't be compared. Try it out with your guy, I am sure it will be fun. Just go slow and enjoy each moment.

 

I love being versatile and it's something I just felt was right about me. Just like being bisexual, I get the best of both worlds.

 

i've no experience but both

 

I don't have muchh experience, but.. I definitely see myself as a bottom, because I like dominant girls and I think a hot girl topping me would be the best thing ever. I definitely would not be completely submissive though, because I like a little control and I think switching roles once in a while would be amazingly fun. I haven't fully experienced either top or bottom, and I definitely am looking forward to trying both, who knows maybe I will love topping.

 

i really don't like being on top and i'm 100% submissive and bottom ,

well thats just me anyway

 

I've yet to have sex, but I imagine myself more as a bottom. I can certainly take the lead when necessary, but I only lead because I have to, not because I want to (I very much dislike it). I'm more of a submissive person if I'm with someone I really trust.

Bottoming in my case would be the highest form of trust and love for my partner.

 

why not both?~

 

Definitely versatile although I'm in a relationship as a bottom right now.

It's tough because my partner doesn't enjoy bottoming at all, and I equally enjoy both. So I haven't topped anyone in a long time. It sucks, but that's love...

 

Bottom. Though I have a degree of versatility, if I had to choose, definitely bottom. To me it is the apex of a sexual experience and gratification.:icon_bigg

 

Middle.

 

Exclusively Bottom. I have never had the urge to penetrate anything really. I have no problem with my special parts, its 'holes' in general that I am unattracted too. I doubt I could even properly preform as a top. I never even had a chance to try to play it straight. lol

Maybe thats why I have always been so vagina-phobic. Its like the hole-ly-est of holes. :C

 

Reminded me of this Davey Wavey video "What Gay Guys Think About Vaginas"

 

Same way you decided if you like cake, ice cream or both. You thought one sounded good, you tried it, and decided you liked it or didn't.

And in reference to at least one post above, I don't consider anal to be a dominance/submission thing. It certainly CAN be, but then again, so can everything in the bedroom. I just consider it another way for us to make each other feel amazing.

Lex

 

Well, I haven't had sex yet (or done anything with a guy at all for that matter), but when I have sexy fantasies and such, a lot of the time I'll fantasize about bottoming (though I definitely still want to do both). I dunno why, but bottoming just seems really hot to me (and, well, I've fooled around a bit 'down there' and while I can never seem to find the exact right spot, it's still rather enjoyable :icon_wink

 

Penetrating men is not something I'm particularly interested in.

 

We are both versatile.

 

Also, if it's not already clear, top =/= dominance, bottom =/= submissiveness.