Sex Drives!

Haha, aww, that last part made me smile.
You're cool, I doubt many people want to date aces.

Well, I'm gray-A and I've just pretty much given up on dating if people want sex. I mean.. it's just so different, in a bad way. I've never cared for relationships so it's no big deal, I don't know. I don't know how to word it right now.
Just whatever happens, if it's good then I might.

 

What a question! :icon_wink

I honestly don't know. :eusa_doh:

I might feel safer with a lower sex drive possessing individual.

 

I don't know if I would want a guy who had a higher sex drive. I think my sex drive is definitely is on the higher end already. That could just be the pent up sexual frustration though. Maybe my sex drive will calm down a bit once I am out.

 

I'd definitely prefer someone with a higher drive than mine...

 

Lower to as much as mine. I'm afraid I can't handle someone with a higher one, and I feel really bad when my partner is horny and I'm "not in the mood".

 

It doesn't really matter to me.

 

Mine is just too high for my own good. I wish I could date someone with lower drive, just so I can keep it on healthy level.
Ohh my God, I sound like a sexual maniac.

 

I would want my partner to have a normal sex drive. I like cuddling and kissing more than anything.

 

about the same with me I dont mind taking the lead then again am up for it if the guy wants to be The Man . quite a turn on if am being honest

 

I would like someone with a lower sex drive, I guess. As long as they would be willing to cuddle instead. Someone who is always in the mood is annoying.

 

My sex drive is.....weird, to say the least. I may feel like going at it all day one minute, and will have literally no sexual drive the next. I like to call it a severe case of "sexual mood swings." :lol: As for what kind of sexual drive I'd like my partner to have, it doesn't matter so long as it isn't extremely high.

 

My sex drive is overactive. Dating people with lower sex drives always creates problems.

 

I don't know. Probably higher?? I'd prefer someone with the same sex drive as me!

 

hey im all in for a high sex drive!!! no sex drive is the deal breaker for me...

if i dont get sex... im happy with getting head a few times a day...

 

I feel like mine is pretty high so either similar to mine or slightly higher. I wouldn't mind if it was a little lower than mine but I think I would rather the person be one of the first two. I can see how someone who is always in the mood can be annoying though, so I definitely don't want that, because I love cuddling, kissing and the like. I wouldn't want someone who is never in the mood either though.

 

I believe I have an average sex drive. There I days I don't think about sex, but when I do, it's an explosion of horniness. I would probably want someone who has the same sex drive as me. Initiating is actually more fun, but being invited would make me feel more attractive. If he was a total pervert (and I've met some guys like this) I would think he only liked me for sex and that he would cheat on me as soon as I said no, so it's better to keep it average.

 

I don't have variation one minute to the next, but I do have (and sort of seems strange) is how violently I can swing overnight. One day, I can have a drive that would make a career as a porn star possible. The next day, zero interest.

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As for the original question, I think if I had the higher drive might be the best thing. Having been single all these years, I know I can survive if my (future) partner doesn't feel like sex. Meanwhile, having a partner bug me when I'm just not in the mood doesn't seem like much fun. Although I suppose in that case I can always sarcastically ask if his right hand is broken...

Although, on a practical level, sex drive differences are something I can be flexible with.

 

Higher

 

(I have no experience. *Blushes* Anyway...) If someone had a lower sex drive then me, they probably identify as asexual. I think someone with a lower or similar drive would be best for compatibility, but I love making people feel good so I think I could adapt to someone with a higher (but not high) libido.

However, they must have a high cuddle drive

 

I do not feel like I, personally, experience much of a drive to have sex but I am not unhappy to engage in it with the person I'm with as often as they wish ... it's not a chore it's just something that while enjoyable is not at the forefront of my mind and not something I consider initiating. I don't know, I'm flexible and reactive. If I do not have sex for a year, I do not miss it; at the other extreme if I have sex several times a day for a year I do not tire of it.

So I don't know. I've always been quite reactive to the drive of my partner so I think the only thing I consider is whether or not they require a partner who is proactive rather than reactive.