What's the most ignorant thing you've heard from another LGBT person?

He probibly thinks the same thing about gays. He could just be censoring himself around you. It would be unusual if he made an exception like that.

 

From gay coworkers your boy "gay" enough BECUASE I don't act like a girl and talk shit behind people's backs I guess I'm not "gay" enough.

 

That gay people are sexually promiscuous, like if it's a rule.

 

I think this would be the most ignorant thing I have heard and it was actually on here happened a few days ago. With a gay guy he was like
"I didn't choose to be gay. Though you chose to play dress-up".

That one just wow...

 

Oh my gosh, yes!

 

Gay men always tell me when I meet them out on town;
"You don`t look lesbian" or "Are you really a lesbian?" And adds a surprised weird look.

That feels really ignorant to me. It`s like saying that all lesbians have a dress-code, a make-up code and a hair-code, and if you don`t follow it, it is weird or odd that you claim to be a lesbian. Dude, we don`t have a "this is how proper lesbians look" code, your feminine secretary with the awesome boobies can actually be a lesbian, the pretty choir girl with the long blonde hair could actually be a leabian! Imagine that!

 

Ugh, THAT. Makes me cringe just thinking about it.

 

i've heard gay dudes say loads of shitty misogynistic/racist/transphobic things

 

That gay women have it easier than gay men.

 

Thanks. I'm glad someone saw it. We all just need to get along or we won't have a very fun ride.

 

Exactly... some people seem to think that they have some kind of pass to hate on other people just because they are gay. Its a lack of respect, but also a very egotistical idea that because you're a part of an often oppressed community, you get to brush aside and trivialize the struggles of other such communities.

Ive heard a guy saying a lot of shit about women, and someone called him out on it, so he replied, "I cant be misogynist, Im gay!" I remember thinking (wish I had the balls to have said it), You know, you dont have to be having sex with women to say hateful things, or hold hateful beliefs, about them.... The way Ive heard some gay men talk about lesbians and women's bodies also was really disgusting. Just because you're not into everything that a woman has got downstairs doesnt mean that any part of a woman's body is naturally just disgusting, or that not being into women sexually makes you better than anyone else.

I think a lot of the same problems that face people of color in the larger American society are present in gay communities as well. I heard a guy once say that he can call people "nigger" because gays are the new black.... Its not the word itself that bothers me, personally I think the word is just a word, its the way its used that gives it power - but what bothered me is that just because you feel discriminated against or looked down on because you are gay, doesn't mean you suddenly know exactly how it feels to be black or can relate to that struggle, or that you are able to use a word like without any concern about who it might offend.

 

(On the fact that some of gay men think being gay means they can't hate women
Why is it that a man can claim that he can't be a misogynist since he's gay, but gay women/lesbians are often stereotyped or assumed to be manhaters simply because they don't find them attractive?

BACK ON TOPIC:
"Well like, I think Dan Savage does great things for ALL the LGBT community and if you disagree with me go away!"

 

societal misogyny, basically

yeah exactly, & i think it's even shittier b/c - as gays are oppressed - i'd expect them to sympathise w/ other oppressed people instead of trying to push them down further in order to become higher up than them in society

 

A bisexual girl told me that I'm probably not gay at all, because I've never been with a woman. "So how do you know?"

:eusa_doh:

 

Actually, he's gay himself!

 

That happened here? You did complain about the person right?

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^This.

 

Yep. I've seen it a couple of times as well. And what do they think about asexual people? Do they think we don't really exist?