I don't want to get older awkward being I'm young

I used to think the same way. I obsessed over my imagine to the point where it was borderline obsessive when I was 17-18. One day I just looked at myself in the mirror using hair conditioner on my face to cleanse my pores and thought, 'what the hell am I doing?'

It's great to look attractive, but it's not everything. I believe I still look great at 22 even with thinning hair, horrible eye bags and an ankle that pops every time I walk (the joys of being a makeshift parent to your siblings, taking on the stress and 'wear and tear' to your body), not to mention other issues. To me, they're not worth obsessing over anymore.

With age comes wisdom and a change of thought. You'll look back on yourself at the age of 40 and think you were crazy. I know I'll do the same, and so will many others I'm sure. Enjoy being you, and enjoy living in the now, the youth of your life. You'll never get it back. Enjoy your life's prime when you reach it, then enjoy middle age, your golden years, and eventually those 'I shouldn't have trusted that fart' years.

 

You worry to much mate . I bet you will look just as fabulous when your 35-40+ I know guys in there late 40s who are just as horny as a 18 year old and are getting just as much action .I think the main problem you have Alexandra and i dont think its a massive problem it`s the stuff inside you like confidence, believe in yourself, trust yourself (*hug*)

 

I look forward to getting older. I think it will be cool to see what kind of changes my body goes through. I look about 16 or 17 and I'll be 24 in March so I'm sure I'll age gracefully my entire family looks young. I'm excited for what tomorrow will bring if there even is a tomorrow. You never know if tomorrow will come for you so appreciate what you have and don't worry about the future too much. Especially the things that are out of your control - like aging.

 

Sounds like you have been brought up to believe that you aren't beautiful unless you are young and that you can always make yourself look better ): that is a shame because what really counts is what is inside.

 

whatever happened to the phrase growing old gracefully .

 

My parents told me that 40 is the beginning of life. LOL.

Don't know, maybe you'll change your mind when you finally accepted that there is nothing you can do to look like 20 at 40. xD

 

Just know that looks fade. Personality, intelligence, and love don't.

 

I think you may be stuck on some insignificant things, but I don't really know you all that well so my observations are moot. However; I don't want you to ever say that you aren't smart or that you don't have a great personality. Those two statements are incredibly unfair. I think you are intelligent through your wording and how you conceptualize your thoughts.

Not only that, but, there are three different types of intelligences: Social, Emotional, and General. Everyone is good at something and everyone shines in one way or another.

 

If you don't smoke, and you stay out of the sun for the most part, that will make a bigger difference than any skin care regimen.

That's my best advice re: aging well. Tanning may look nice today, but it's hell on your skin down the line.

Not to mention tanning and smoking are both known to cause cancer. That's mostly why I avoid them.

 

This just made my day XD

 

I wouldn't ever sacrifice my happiness or sanity for the sake of appearance.

I do what I want primarily, and make myself happy. My appearance usually just suffers the consequences haha.

I've had many piercings that I've taken out for example, and I have scars now as a result. Do I care about the scars? No because the piercing brought me joy.

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Oh and also -

You can't blame your parents for everything man, I'm sorry but you have to take some responsibility for your own actions and ideology.

I myself come from a very catholic and conservative family. I was taught from a young age that black people are evil, homosexuals were disgusting and people from other religions were heathens and deserved to die. I remember hearing my father say once that he sympathized with the Nazi's over the holocaust. Yep, it was that bad.

However, the moment I remotely became aware of the world and how old fashioned and so so so out of place their opinions were, I sought out my own values and morals. This led to me becoming independent and my own person, instead of an extension of their own persona.

We're the same age, literally weeks apart. I don't see why you continue to hold onto the indoctrination while I rebelled against mine. And honestly, 100% truthful, changing your attitude is very very simple and easy. You're holding onto what you've been told to believe because, to a lesser extent, you still believe it. You still believe it because you probably want to believe it, and that's your own responsibility and not your parents.

You need to accept responsibility for things to change man. Just trying to help you.

 

If your skin looks like a 15 year old's, I want skin-care tips from you! I have combination skin that is oily in some areas and dry in others. I don't think it's wrong to look after yourself, just stay away from the extremes such as surgery.

What products do you use on your skin? I know this is off the topic of ageing, but I'm curious. I bet you have a whole bible of products!

 

I'm kind of the same way. I'm turning 22 in two weeks and I already miss being 19. That's such a fun age. But don't freak out about being old. You're still so young and you have a long way before you're 40 (which is still young in my opinion) or 50 or even 80. You have a long life to live so enjoy it! If you find someone along the way, I bet they will love you and find you attractive no matter how old and wrinkly you are

 

Some might say you can't be one without the other.

 

Coincidentally, those are great ways to cure aging.

 

Looking older can work to your advantage, especially when you're in your early years. When I was 16 I was about the only guy I knew who had a beard (when I say beard I mean a full beard, not little patches of peach fuzz). I've actually had people ask me if I'm my younger brother's dad. But people tended to treat me more like an adult instead of a teenager. In most situations people will respect you more if you seem mature. And, like it or not, people's impressions are influenced by your appearance. I don't mean that you should try to make yourself look older than you are, but I just wouldn't worry about trying to look young. Just be yourself.

Personally, when I think about getting older I'm not so worried about how I look as I am about whether or not I'll still want or be able to do the stuff I like to do.

 

I want to get older, looking forward to it. I want to be fit and look and feel well, but I don't care so much about looking young. I want to preserve my cognitive skills as well as I can though. I'm trying to concentrate on exercising, meditating, eating well, not smoking and drinking too much. I hope by the time I'm older they'll be able to upload a mind to a computer and I'll live forever.