stalked by a straight woman

This fall. Around October.

 

I told them separately.

There was 1 friend who, while she wasn't very supportive emotionally and actually said some kind of hurtful things, she is who suggested that I should talk to a domestic violence counseling center and get advice about what legally could be done.

I guess maybe I should try and talk to her again...? Thing is - she was really insensitive about the whole thing. Like, I e-mailed her 4 or 5 times over the course of a few weeks saying I was really upset and could use some emotional support and she kept writing back things like, 'I haven't felt this great in years!' And she kept putting off talking to me to tell me how fabulous she was doing... And that's not at all the kind of friendship we've had for the last 10 years so it was really upsetting.

 

Thanks for that #807. I appreciate it. I've read a few articles on stalking -- or 'obsessional harassment' as its sometimes called and as I think sums up this situation, and the borderline personality types that are at the root of it. I am still looking for things to help deal with the emotional impact of it. I think ptsd is considered a likely outcome after having been stalked for a long time and I'm working through a ptsd workbook. Most of the books though deal with 'stalking' like a big man with a pipe loitering outside your window and not really with this type of harassment, which I'd be interested to read if u have any suggestions.

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Thanks so much silverhalo - u have certainly brightened up my day.

You are probably right and I should give it one last try. I'm just feeling a little gunshy because the previous attempts have failed so miserably...

Most of my family's no help really -- my immediate family is very homophobic and have never been very supportive of my 'lifestyle'.

I feel like everyone's acting like I'll just 'get over it' and pick up my life again like nothing happened. But I feel like its really hard to rebuild all of the trust I've lost....

 

She lives further away -- she lives in the mid-west and I live on the east coast. She moved away 6 or 7 years ago but we'd stayed friends.

The stalker works at a different place now. At least as far as I know because she's not listed on their website anymore.

 

I have 2 friends nearby that I tried to talk to about it.

What do u think I should say, generally?

Thanks SO much for your help.

 

Thank you. I really, really appreciate the help. Sounds like a very good place to start.

What about the people that live closer? Were u asking about that because of something else u think I should say or do?

 

Aww, thanks so much. Thanks for the hug emoticon. U really did brighten my day so much I cant even tell u. It's the first time I've smiled in way too long I think... Have a good 'un silverhalo.

 

Wow, that's really nice of you. Thanks so so so so much.

 

Thanks so much -- I'm sure I will post to your wall looking for support/advice again. I really appreciate the offer.