Married to straight woman, I'm bi or gay

Well we've had a pretty good week. On Sunday my wife said I would always be welcome at the house and always a part of the family. It hasn't been all smooth sailing, but the main idea of me being gay and moving out is very well accepted and I can see that it is going to work out in the long run. I was afraid my wife would not want me anywhere near the house once the move was made, but she seems OK with it now, more accepting than I expected.

She also recognizes (and said so) that for me to be whole and happy I would need to be out to everyone, though she is not hurrying that in anyway. She, rightfully so, said it is up to me how and when I come out.

Things, while sad in many ways, are getting better. Now my job is to come out. I'm working on it!

 

Thanks for the encouragement. I do feel that when we get everything settled it will get better pretty quickly.

 

The last thing I wanted to do was fight over money. Sometimes I think I've been more important to her as an income source than as a companion. She is starting to bring financial heat upon me, and it seems to be coming out of anger. I hope this passes.

:-(

 

Update, things are still on again, off again frosty, but my moving date is sneaking up (April 27) and I'm coming out to more and more people each day. Got to reconnect with the friendship I had with my 2nd wife, to whom I was married some 14 years. She and I have both come to a place where we can be the good friends we were meant to be, and each of us has grown significantly in the last few years apart. My current and soon-to-be-ex wife are still tiptoeing around money and logistics, but it will work out.

 

Thank you! I will keep you posted

 

Much appreciated! Things are definitely looking up.

 

Packing today for move next weekend.

Pulling kitchen items out of drawer:
"Was this yours or mine, honey? I don't remember."
"We have two of these, which one do you want?"
"I think that bread knife was mine..."

Sad.

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Well, I'm all moved in. Brave new world. Hard for me to believe how far and fast this has come when I see I registered on this site in late December 2012. 4 months and a whole new world.

 

Thanks! Every day gets a little better!!!