Five months in ... but not out

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  1. Lighthouse

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    Hello everyone,

    I'm 43 and w:wave:hile I've had fleeting thoughts about being a lesbian, like once every few years, I've decided that this is who I am and I have never felt better about me...except I'm not out and don't foresee coming out any time soon...because...I'm married. The marriage has been over for a couple of years but I just asked for a divorce a week or so ago. More on that relationship another time. I've met a wonderful woman and she's encouraged me to do some reading and "studying" and I have. Many of the books I've read have commented about online support groups so that's what led me here. I look forward to meeting new folks and hopefully making new friends.
     
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    Hello and Welcome!!
     
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    I just started today as well!
     
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    Well, I welcome you as well!
     
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    Hello, and welcome to EC to you both!
     
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    Welcome to EC :slight_smile: It's a great place.
     
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    Welcome to the EC (*hug*)

    Absolutely wonderful place to learn and hang. :smilewave
     
  10. Lighthouse

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    Thanks everyone for the kind welcome. Does anyone have any recommended readings? I've read Awakenings, Late bloomers and a couple of others. Those two were by far the best so far. Just started Outing Yourself.
     
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    Hi Lighthouse....I was late coming out myself, though for different reasons. Glad you found this great group. Wish I'd found it when I was about to come out myself! :lol:

    What books have you read so far? And hope this site is of great help to you (*hug*)
     
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    I've read Awakening, Dear John I Love Jane, and Latebloomers were all great and very helpful to my figuring all this out. I'm reading Outing Yourself now.
     
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    This is a great book. Still reading it. But it's full of stories by different women who are gay, bi and bi-curious. From relationship stories to coming out stories.

    Same Sex In The City
     
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    Thanks Mickie!
     
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    welcome :slight_smile: There a quite a few people on here who are in the process of or have already come out to spouses. I'm sure you will be able to find support here :slight_smile:

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    definitely going to have to check out the kindle edition of this :slight_smile:
     
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    Welcome lighthouse to empty closets
     
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    Hi and welcome to EC!!! I didn't consider myself a late bloomer until I got on this site and found young, young ones coming out. Then, I felt like a late bloomer. I just recently came out to myself (2 months ago) and my therapist (1 month ago) and joined this site about 2 1/2 weeks ago. I'm loving it here!!

    I'm definitley going to check out some of the books yall have mentioned, as soon as I get my Kindle back from my sister. She had shoulder surgery and was stuck at home for a long while, so I loaned it to her. I didn't realize how much I missed it until I didn't have it here! :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks Madi, Isabelle and WhitWhit...hope ur sister is recovering well :slight_smile:
     
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    Hello and welcome! Glad you found this site, there's a lot of great people here who go out of their way to help. :slight_smile: