Give me some words of encouragement

Contemplating was a great first step. Writing the letter was a great second step. It sounds like you are ready to do it!

 

You can do this! I know its a silly analogy but think of it like pulling off a bandaid. If you do not want to deal with the anticipation of them reading the letter, read it to them. Anticipation is very often worse than the event itself. I say go for it asap. Do it a little while before you plan on leaving again if you are nervous, It will give them a little time to react but then you can go back to (school I assume?) and let them cool down a bit. If you wait til your next visit you might have talked yourself out of it worse. Maybe you'll keep saying next time, and never do it.

I wish you the best of luck! You can get through this!

 

Even if you don't give them the letter, just the fact that you could give it to them, that you've got everything lined up on place to enable yourself to do it means you've come a really long way!
Don't sweat it if you can't do it yet, but you should definitely be pretty proud of yourself that you're contemplating.

 

I have to agree with the others on the thread. There's absolutely nothing that says you HAVE to do it this weekend. It's something you'll do when you're ready, and the prep that you've put into this shows that, if you're not ready now, you will be soon. When you do take that step, be prepared for an emotional roller coaster. I don't know how your parents will react, but when I came out to my mother, I was far more emotional about it then she was.

I know about the fear, and I can also tell you, at least in my experience, that's probably going to be there until you do it. As was mentioned earlier, the anticipation is usually worse then anything else. If you're waiting for a calm to come over you, it probably isn't going to happen.

Whatever you decide, best of luck to you! I hope it goes well. Judging from your post, I'd guess that if it doesn't happen this weekend, it's going to happen soon. The letter isn't my cup of tea, but I know it's a tried and true method and works really well for some people, so I think you're probably on the right track for you.

Enough of my rambling now. I tend to go on.

 

Don't push yourself to do it if you're not ready.

If you are... go for it!! And I hope it turns out much better than you're expecting.

Here for you if you need anything.

 

Oh dear I do apologize. I hope I didn't sound pushy! I agree with the fact that if you are not ready, then that's fine. But if you are...you got this!

 

If I came off as pushy as well I apologize. Ultimately you know when you're ready. If you are, go for it. If you're not, then take the time you need to work up to it.

Best of luck whatever you decide!

 

It's a very beautiful letter and I think it's time that you give it to your Mom. I got teary eyed reading it because I know it feels. I think you should go with your gut feeling and do whatever it is telling you to do. Our instincts usually drive us in the right direction, make sure you keep us updated on your decision

 

I do not wish you luck. You already have that.
Instead, I wish you confidence. The gargoyle's got your back.

Lex

 

The thing about parents is that they love you regardless, or at least they should. I haven't come out to mine yet and I'm definitely scared to tell them but I know in the end, I owe it to them and myself to be honest.

I really hope that it goes well for you. You need to remember that you deserve to be happy.

 

Dude, do not start you're letter with I'M SORRY! DO NOT APOLOGIZE BECAUSE IT IMPLIES YOU'VE DONE SOMETHING WRONG WHEN ALL YOU'RE DOING IS BEING HONEST ABOUT WHO YOU ARE, THAT IS NOT A CRIME SO DON'T SAY SORRY!

Excuse the Caps but I think this is a really important point. Maybe rephrase it ' you may have noticed that I've been withdrawn recently etc.'

 

You have to accept the fact that your parents were raised in an environment where homosexuals were being highly condemned. no matter what position you are in coming out will always be hard and if you believe its time you tell your parents then you just have to tell yourself to be strong because it will have to happen sometime . your parents may not act the way you want them to but I think if you give them time they will realize you are the same person you've always been.

 

You can do it!
The first time is always the hardest. I remember I was shaking and wanted to vomit and die but every time after that it's gotten so much easier.
It only gets easier from here on out, you've just got to be ready to take the plunge.

 

mlpguy88 - I don't know your parents but I think I know you from your posts - you are a good, caring, warm-hearted person - and I can only imagine someone like that must come from parents who love you at their core. You are a wonderful person - let that shine. Cast off the shame, the guilt - you don't need it anymore. You can be yourself - because the person who you truly are is even more amazing than the person you've been. Let the rest of the world see that. Celebrate the person you are - because we do.

Love,
Maxx