I just left my wife

maxx.......your awesome. You did the right thing. I wish I were where you are today.

 

Wow that's great Maxx. I'm glad to hear you and your wife are doing well. It is always nice to hear that everything will be okay in the end.

Stay strong and keep us updated

 

Thanks for sharing your story. its very reassuring. i never quite got married but i was close. just taken the first step in trying to find the authentic me. i really hope me and my girlfriend can have an amicable future. she's really angry at the moment (understandably). I hate knowing ive hurt her and i hate knowing it was the right thing to do.. i cant cope with the idea of loosing her from my life completely

 

good for you maxx! it feels great doesn't it?!

 

Maxx,
Just saw your update and I couldn't be happier for you!

 

All the best with future steps along the road to complete acceptance of yourself, maxx.
I hope that you will be able to look back on this in the future as a positive step

 

Maxx, I can't say how happy I am for your tremendous steps towards authenticity over the past few months! I am so proud of you!

I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your new guy! And all the best for you and your wife as well. I hope you can all find reason to be thankful! You for your authenticity, your wife for the chance at a new life, and your new love for finding such a wonderful man as you!

All my best! I am thankful for your support and advice on EC as well!

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Point taken, thanks.
Yes I am bisexual...but it's something that could help for a friend or the like. Thank you.
Good luck to your ex and good luck to you too.

 

Maxx, like everyone else, I am extremely envious of what you have done in coming out. Your story really has made me realize that it is not impossible to be true to yourself. I am 20, and still entirely in the closet. It shocks and disgusts me how easy it is for me to lie to myself and go on with my everyday life, but I just do not know what to do. Time and time again, I find reasons to push away the girls that are interested in me only because I cannot simply let anyone get that close to me. I have built this humongous wall and its starting to get lonely as hell. Anyway, I don't mean to make this about me but you remind me a lot of myself and I am afraid that I could one day be in the position you are in. I want to so badly not let that happen but I just cannot fathom coming out. It scares me more than anything in this world. Once again, I have the utmost respect for you and I honestly hope I have the amount of courage you do one day.

 

Welcome to the forums Erik! This is an older post but nonetheless, I'm glad that Maxx's actions made an impact on you.
I'd suggest making an introduction post and if you want, post a little (or a lot if you're comfortable ) about yourself. I'm sure you'll find open and understanding minds here who can help you get a little insight of how you feel.

 

Hi Erik, and :welcome: to EC.

We've all been there, myself included, so most of us know how you feel. Trust me, if you look hard enough, that humongous great wall you've built has a door, and with time, you'll figure out how to open it. Accepting yourself is probably the hardest part of coming out, but you'll almost certainly feel better once you do.

Unfortunately it's not really something you can rush. As Clown said, explore these forums as much as you like, read a few of our stories, and post as much as you need

(*hug*)

 

Your thread title makes it sound like a bad thing. You haven't left her, you've freed her. You've freed both of you. It's your time to live life the way you deserve to.

It was the right thing to do and I commend you for it. Good luck with the rest of your new life, I wish you all the best.

 

Wow. Bravery at its best. It will take time but she will realize you set both her and yourself free... The journey begins...

 

I have a huge fear of this happening to me! Was it just the idea of gay sex that mostly led to you leaving?

 

Maxx, I talked about this post yesterday when I was with my therapist. I was struck by what you said about being half-in and half-out as far as being gay. I am frustrated that my circumstances leave me in a situation where even though I've come out to many, many people in our circle of friends, relatives, etc., I still have to maintain a modicum of hetero to others. It's literally like I've got one leg in the closet and the other sticking out. I know I have to continue to work with my therapist to sort out what it is that I really need to be happy and then once that's crystal clear then I need to let my wife know so that she and I can make a mutual assessment of whether to stay or split. In any case, thanks for your thoughts on this Maxx. Your experience as well as others here are helping me to see how other guys have dealt with this. Thanks very much.