So....has anyone came out to their roommate in college?

I came out to my first roommate (3 years ago) before we even got to school. At that point, I was dating a guy, and considered myself bi, so that's what I came out to her as. She was completely cool with it, even going so far as to joke about hooking up with each other (she's one of those straight girls that'll kiss a girl for attention). I've never known it to go badly when somebody has come out to their roommate, but I've gone to absurdly liberal schools with absurdly liberal people...

I know what you mean about having trouble saying it. I still get sort of awkward when I state my sexuality sometimes, and I've been totally out for a little over a year. The more you say it, even if it's just to yourself in the mirror, the more natural it'll feel. Getting a girlfriend helps an enormous amount too, at least it did for me. You'll be so proud and in love that you'll want to shout it from the rooftops!

 

I actually just came out to my college roommate a little over a month ago.

There was a moment where they appeared freaked out, but I just had to make it clear that I wasn't going to be trying to hit on them and this was just about allowing me to feel comfortable within my own home.

I think since your roommate is fine with gay people, she will most likely be fine with lesbians as well. You just might need to be ready for her to be a little nervous about the thought of you being attracted to her until she can get used to the idea.

 

I totally have the same problem. I went off to school last September and I stayed in student housing and lived with 7 other guys. All but one of them were straight. The one gay guy was very effeminate and I not at all. Its hard for me to tel people I am gay. especially with out knowing them. It takes time for me to say it. I said I was gay to one of my roomates who I bonded with pretty early. My actual roommate I shared a room with I didn't really are for so I didn't feel he deserved to know. Even the gay roomate didn't even know it think. But just telling the one roomate still made more confident nd the friends I made I told.

 

Yeah as soon as I found out what my room and roommate assignments were it was the first thing i said. It's been great so far, I'm having a little anxiety about coming out to other people in college since this isnt the most liberal/neutral of places, but the school encourages tolerance of everyone so its not the school more so ah whatever.

But yeah, roommate knows, nothing changed, hell we go to bed in our underwear and there isn't an issue.

 

Actually, I have come out to my roommates. To make a super long story short, I finally came to terms with the fact that I was gay in about February. Jump up to May, and I told my good friend Jake down here, and started coming out to friends. I was nervous about coming out to my roommates, but during a party we threw at our apartment, I got drunk, decided I didn't care what anyone thought about it, and came out to everyone at the party. Everyone took it well, didn't care, and we watched The Avengers and continued partying like nothing happened.

The main point of the story is that you shouldn't care what anyone thinks. If your roommate has a gay guy friend, she'll more than likely be fine with a lesbian roommate. Just let her know that you won't hit on her, and that you're still the same person that you were before, only you like girls. We live in an age where being gay/lesbian isn't that big of a deal, or as big of a deal as it might have been twenty years ago in the 90's or before. I don't think you'll have a problem