Why SHOULDN'T I come out through text?

I'm late to the party, but same goes... since I don't know your situation, but it seems like you aren't that close with your brothers, if texting them is what you need to do to get it done, then do it. If they won't be too phased by the news, then all the better. If they don't care and you don't care there's no real need to make a big deal out of it.

The only reason I won't text my family is because I feel like even though I'm not that close to them, on some level I still care quite a bit what they think of me and I know they care about me. Given that these are the last people I need to tell, and I've worked so hard through this process up until now, I don't want to "give up" (for lack of a better word) now and chicken out on telling them face-to-face.

tl;dr I think the significance of the relationship is what determines the importance of the delivery of the message.

 

Do what feels right and comfortable, Personally, I think something like coming out to someone you love and trust should be face-to-face.

You can't ever see their facial reactions that can't be replaced my a emoticon.
You can't feel a supportive hug when you do it through a text.
You can't truly know how they will feel if your'e not there.

You just can't replace that special moment to answer your question "Why shouldn't I come out through text?", The confidence and courage it gives, the chance to not be afraid of who you are.

But ultimately these are my views. Do as you feel like is best.

And not matter what, always know that whatever reaction you get is a once in a lifetime chance.

Good luck to you.

 

There's nothing really wrong with text.
When I came out publicly, I did it through Facebook. It was nice because I had to only say it once and then I'm done.
However, family members deserve a bit more than that. You should at least try to make a phone call.
Text is good for most people, but family is something you want to do personally.

 

But, do you feel like you want to tell them in person (in any sense of the word)? Would you regret not doing telling them in person?

If you'd regret it at all, I'd say hold out and push yourself to do it in person. Otherwise, just do it however you want to get it done; no sense in dragging it out any longer if there's no reason to wait.

Fear of regret is the only thing I'm still weighing on in my situation; maybe it applies here.

 

I feel ya. I was talking with some friends a while back about how much I wanted to tell my fam and get it over with and blah blah blah, and mentioned just sending them an e-mail and getting it over with. It was pretty unanimous in everyone gave me that dumbfounded, "Really?" kind of reaction. And I know they don't mean it badly, since they're all really supportive, but that's stuck with me ever since.

At the end of the day, I'm pretty sure they'd just be happy that I was happy it'd be done with. I'd probably hear about it jokingly once in a while though. The thing you need to decide is if that scenario comes up, are you comfortable enough with your decision to basically explain to the person asking you what you told us?

Also, why not a letter/e-mail, or rather, why text? It doesn't have to be lengthy, but it does seem a little more personal than a rather "impersonal" text.

 

Understandable.

You could always use the "this was the easiest way to tell both of you at once" excuse so they (hopefully) don't read into it any more than they need to.

 

I would think that telling someone through text or face to face wouldn't matter so much because either way you are coming out to them. It can be a difficult process so I would think they would understand!

 

Well, I came out to my parents using a hand written letter, and sure enough my mom was pissed about it. She felt cheated that I didn't have the courage to tell her face to face. Well she was right. And in a way I'm glad I didn't because she reacted HORRIBLY and that was like a week after she read that we finally talked.

Some people love to tell you the best way to come out to people. I for one lock up with anxiety trying to say something that important in person. Its much easier for me to express it in written word, be that a letter a text or anything. That goes for talking to friends as well. I've had people tell me that I "owed" it to my parents to tell them in person. Well I don't think I did.

Here's one simple rule that I think it comes down to with coming out. How someone reacts has everything to do with how they feel about LGBT issues and how much they care about you. It has ultimately nothing to do with how you tell them. Do it however you feel most comfortable, and don't ever feel guilty about it.

 

Sorry,I guess 'properly' was the wrong choice of words. Proper would be whatever you feel is right for the situation. I could not tell you otherwise... But you now have a few arguments for and against. If you feel a text is the right way to do it then go for it. I know the thing about suspense though! I recently came out to a guy I had an interest in over text. I spent the entire day close to tears, dreading his response. Only later in the day, did he respond and all was well (hes straight tho ). But as has been said already, only you know the circumstances and it is ultimately up to you to choose what you feel is the best approach. Good luck. :icon_bigg