So, I get questioned like this all the time- I suppose it's because I'm not out to my grandma.... haha. "So who all came to your get-together?" I name a few friends. "Oh, her! She's cute! Is she your girlfriend?" "No, grandma....." :icon_redf:bang::eusa_naug:eusa_doh::tantrum: People at my redneck church do it all the time too... anyone else? Any other annoying questions?
"Why won't you date her? You two would be perfect together!" "Do you want me to set you up with this really pretty girl I know?" "Why don't you have a girlfriend?" etc. King x
Some people don't do it maliciously. They're just so stuck in their self-centered universe that they can't even imagine anyone not being like them. At my dad's wake of all places I had to endure a 5 min grilling from one of his retired colleagues asking if I had kids, if I was married or divorced, any ex-girlfriends, it was way "over the line" but some people just don't get it These are possibly the same people who will later try to set you up with every gay guy they have ever known to try their darndest to show they accept you :bang: cute but annoying.
"How do you know you aren't straight? Have you ever done a dude?" Answer: How do you know you are gay? Have YOU ever done a guy? "Hey hey hey hey, I know this chick, you wanna meet her? She's hoooot~!" This happened. Right after I told them I had a girlfriend. :bang: "Why don't you just start dating guys? Or hotter chicks?" *loads gun, shoots face*
"Why do you like your hair so short?" - Answer: Does it matter? "Why don't you just wear a dress?" - Answer: *blank stare* "You know you're a girl, right?" - Answer: "It's not about being male or female, but maybe the bigger question, is..."Why does it matter so much to you?"
"How do you know you're bi? You've never had sex!" "So, if you fell in love with a guy, what would happen?" answer: I'd still be bi. Duh. "Maybe you're confused?!?" "I think you're just going through a man-hating stage. Are you sure you prefer girls SEXUALLY?" "You haven't had enough experience to know. Are you made just over-analyzing things?" "Should you really be labeling yourself at so young an age? Are you sure you're not doing this because kids these days are so pressured into labeling themselves so early?" "Isn't bisexuality this major label for someone who is just confused and doesn't know who they'd rather have sex with?" AAAaaargh!!! :bang::bang::***::bang:
After telling my mom I'm bisexual (I have a boyfriend currently)...: "So what would you do if another girl asked you out?" - So what would I do if another guy asked me out? It's the same thing. "If you go out with a girl eventually, doesn't that make you a lesbian?" - No, it makes me bisexual.... "Why would a guy want to go out with a bisexual girl? There's so many more people that you may be interested in." - But I'm not going to cheat on him, because I'm not the type of person to do that. "How do you know if you like girls if you've never kissed one/dated one?" - You can like someone without ever kissing them before... Typical questions I guess... Then about a month ago my friend asked... (because I have a boyfriend): So does this mean you're straight now? :dry:
ahhh have you none this with a girl (says something sexual)? what about (says something sexual)? awnser: even i ahve, why would i tell you?! omg are you staring at her? omg you soo fancy her!!
Happens all the time with my parents (who I'm not out to) asking me/making comments about guys...It was uncomfortable at first but I'm used to it now
These times 10, also: Are you sure you're not just gay. (Implying that I'm hiding behind the bisexual label)
My mom constantly does that to me!! Fucking annoying... I'll start talking about one of my friends and she'll go," oh' thats cool. is ___ your girlfriend?" only because she doesnt seem to get the fact that' just like she is not attracted to every man she sees, i am not attracted to every girl I see' either.:bang::bang::bang:
Another one just happened to me: I was asked to go to a sleepover. SO I asked my mom. She goes "Do you mean as friends or... the other?" "What do you mean, mom?" Though I clearly knew what she was implying. :la: "The... other..." "I don't know what you're saying." "You know... like... girlfriend..." "EXCUSE ME???!?!" I erupted. So later then, daddy dearest came home and I asked him, because my mom wasn't giving me an answer. "Well, you're both teenagers and your hormones are raging... We aren't stupid; we know what can go on at things like that," He tried to explain. "Are you calling me a whore?" I rebutted. Lol I was allowed to go after that.
"Why have you cut your hair so short again?" "Why don't you wear dresses and skirts?" But the one I hate the most: "When are you getting a boyfriend?" :bang: Oh, how this question pisses me off!!! And my mum's boyfriends keeps asking that all the time just because he knows it annoys me!
I'm married to a man but I don't hide the fact that as a general rule I only like women. It's weird, I can't explain what makes my husband special, but I just go with what makes me happy. So I get a lot of, "Are you straight now?" - "No." And, "Don't you think you'll eventually want a divorce because you like women?" I actually get this one a lot from LGBT people, too. - "Are bisexuals capable of monogamy?"
I guess it's just difficult for some mono-sexuality people to empathise with bi- and pansexual people.
Every time I see my grandma, it's the same question. Grandma: "So do you have a girlfriend?" Me: "I sure don't!" Grandma: "Oh, well that's just a shame, you're so handsome." Me: "I'm not losing any sleep over it."
from my sister (who im not out to yet): Why are you so weird? (meaning like indepent and stuff like that) maybe if you werent you could date lance. from lesbian aunt (not out to) whos your boyfriend? why dont you listen to your sister? when we gonna meet your boyfriend? from everyone; are you and kyle dating? (best friend who is gay) why dont you and kyle date? you guys are so perfect for eachother!! you and kyle should grow up and have babies together!!! the kyle stuff is what really gets me.
it may have just been my parents but when i was in the closet they used to always ask me "do you have a girlfriend yet? boyfriend? significant other of any kind?" it was a ridiculous grilling session that happened on a regular basis but it was kinda cute noww that i think about it...used to aggravate the hell outta me though
Questions asked by my Mother (Just remember I'm not out to family when you read this.) "Why don't you just grow a pair and get it over with?" "What do you want, to walk around looking butch?" "So what you wanna walk around looking like your sister?" "Why can't you just act like a girl?" -What seems to be mu "friends" personal favorite question is this: "If your a lesbian why would you want to look like a guy? You don't like men, so why look like one??" ^...This is prob. one reason why my family doesn't know yet...
