Im so confused

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  1. Ravenn14

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    Im so confused about everything i think im more attracted to girls then guys d its this girl i like and shes beautiful funny smart and everytime she smiles i melt and ive done everything i could to tell her that i wanna take it to another level and im just waiting for to make that offical move and make this sooner than later


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    Don't wait for her to ask you out, ask her out. You don't need to be dramatic about it. Just have a cup of coffee with her, go see a movie, or even just take a long walk. Nothing big, nothing fancy. You don't even have to say it's a date.
     
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    Firstly im assuming that she knows you are into girls and you know she is into girls?
     
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    Yeah she does know and she told me that she likes me nd she dosent know how she feels about liking guys or girls. And shes scared that if she dates me and something bad happens we wont be the same
     
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    I see, its difficult and the problem with being subtle is that when you are the person giving the hints you feel like they are really obvious but when you are the other person you often dont notice. Could you talk to her and tell her that, or could you just make a more physical move on her and say hold her hand?
     
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    I guess i could but i dont know if that would be weird for her
     
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    You could ask, you could say, I would really like to hold your hand, but if you dont want to thats cool. Or you could say I know you are a bit unsure of whether or not you like girls but I really like you and would like to be more than friends, but if you dont thats cool.
     
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    You'll have to make the first move. She is way too nervous. Nothing will happen unless you do something.

    Do you chat online with her? Perhaps flirting with her online would be better first. She may feel less uncomfortable that way.