Mark my buddy so very sorry about everything ( hugs) i know ul be ok i just feel it until then my sweet friend may your heart feel less heavy till we talk again <3
Sorry again for whats going on between you and your mom. I just watched this video of a mom and her daughter talking about the effects that the coming out process had on both of them. I was really touched by it and I thought it had a lot of really good advice and insight and I thought of this thread when I saw it. I thought it might be able to help you. I know it helped me and I think it gave me the courage to try and come out to my mom next week. [YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssYUaSHJHyE[/YOUTUBE]
Mark, I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. If it helps any, I think your mom's response is actually pretty normal. My suspicion is that, in her normal day-to-day, she's probably a bit on the structured side, used to having everything neatly compartmentalized. It's people like that who have a little harder time dealing with stuff like this. The outburst telling your dad and brother stuff is part of the "anger" phase; my guess is that she is feeling out of control about your being gay, and so the response is to try and take control by blurting out all of that stuff. It's totally wrong, but it's basically just a control mechanism. I think you know that it will blow over and everything will be ok. You're lucky to have a friend that will let you stay with him, and I think that is really helpful in that it gives everyone some space and time. Please keep us informed how things are going.
Thanks everybody (*hug*) That video made me cry.Thank you for posting it here! I hope coming out to your mom will go well for you!(*hug*)
Well my dad and I had a massive talk a few days ago and he's definitely come round. He said that he was just shocked and that he would of taken it better if I'd of told him myself. He thinks that we just need to let my mom deal with it on her own and that eventually she will get used to the idea. So things are a lot better even though my mom was really mad at my dad for being ok with it but whatever!
Glad to hear your dad came around you being gay, even if he didn't react like he would on the first time, it must feel really nice I'd say just give time your mom to do so. Good Luck!
BOOSH! Glad to hear things are finally taking a turn for the better after a long rough patch. I guess it is a matter of time now that you have one parent on your side. I hope it won't be much longer.
Wahoa. Mark, I'm really sorry for what you passed, but I'm glad to hear that your dad is on your side now. I understand what you feel, really. My parents are pretty like your mother. I think she needs time. I know you're probably tired to hear it, but I think so. She hasn't the right but she need time. And when she'll see your happiness it will be better. For now just be yourself and behave as usual, and be strong. C'mon!
