double standard men vs women homosexuality?

I agree with Watch. Guys tend to accept lesbians due to their fantasies, not because they actually respect them. Hell, I'm a transsexual and this happens to me. I say that I'm a lesbian to a guy and suddenly I'm the most interesting girl in the world to him. I learned quickly that telling guys that I'm only interested in women does NOT deter them.

 

It makes you wonder where God is, allowing hatred to fester.

 

I essentially think female homosexuality is taken less seriously. For example I know straight girls who get drunk and make out in a club. Everyone just laughs and treats it as a joke. However, when two of my straight guy friends did it once everyone's reaction along the lines of 'wow, that's really gay'. So, yes, on the one hand females do seem more able to experiment without being judged, and labelled as gay.

However, i think there is a flip side to this. If a guy comes out to his friends I think there tends to be generally acceptance that he wouldn't be saying this if he wasn't gay. However, I think girls who come out are often taken less seriously- there is alot more of the 'just a phase/ doing it for attention/ just hasn't found the right guy yet' reaction. It seems to me that girls who identify as gay suffer alot more for credibility than guys.

 

Straight men like seeing hot girls make out. Because more of a good thing is even better!

See Girl on Girl is Hot on Tv Tropes. Gives a pretty good description and examples in the media.

But I know that straight/bi guys only like it when both girls are stereotypically 'girly' or whatever.

This. Though I do know more men who like to watch women kiss. But I know MANY women who, if they see a gay male couple, they can't help but go "Awwwww :3" and think it's adorable. But, girls kissing sells, and so sometimes I think female bisexuality is seen more of a way to get guys to notice you, which irritates me SO MUCH.

 

Like what thedreamwatch said, it depends on the culture. Here in the UK, we're pretty secular so religion doesn't really come into it that much. So if someone here doesn't like homosexuality, it's usually because it's 'gross' or 'girly' or 'unnatural', not because the bible said it's an 'abomination'. However, this is only in regards to male homosexuality.

I believe it's like this. In Western culture, sex sells. Men are usually the target audience for this, and since the majority of men are straight (or maybe bi), they like women.

SO; WOMEN X 2 + SEX = MEN BUYING/WATCHING THINGS = Profit.

I wasn't planning on going in depth. Just my take on it.

Haha, ":3" Is a smiley face. But like ... a cute one rather than a generic one.

But yes, either my friends say it's cute or they just don't care. But I know where I live (which isn't representative of the whole of the UK), seeing guys kissing is seen as cute or "Awww" worthy. I don't think I've ever heard anyone at my school say it's gross, but that may come down to the fact that one of the most popular guys in my school is gay (and quite camp) so the kids have a different view of it.

 

Well here it's a pretty similar kind of things with girls. But if a girl is only average looking and comes out as a lesbian, then suddenly every girl thinks she's going to rape her.
It's worse for guys though, because even if he is a stunner, every guy thinks he's going to try to rape him. A lot of girls will find two guys cute, but a fair few will think it's just disgusting.
The girls tend to be less actively homophobic though, just saying "that's gross" and finishing there, whereas guys will throw loose change and stuff like that.

 

It's not fair or accurate to say that either gender has it easy. There might be some situations in which girls have it easier than gus, or vice versa, but I've been told "you don't have any problems, you're a girl, coming out would have been easy for you" and that's just bullshit. I still lost friends. I still had homophobia aimed at me. Just because some straight guys think it's hot to see two typically attractive girls together doesn't make it easy for the entire female gender. (And the fact that I've been told "if you were good-looking I might think it's OK" after coming out to someone really says a lot about the whole "objectification is totally acceptance" thing.)

 

As I understand it, a lot of people advocate acceptance for their particular color of normal but not "those people who act strange". Either you accept the fact that our behaviors and orientation are hardwired into our genes or you don't. You have a right to your own opinion, of course, but it seems a little hypocritical to want acceptance for yourself but be unwilling to understand the feelings of others.

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What I see is a bunch of posters being critical of other people,

 

There's a girl at work that said out right that's ok for her to kiss girls but guys kissing guys isnt (she doesn't know im questioning my sexuality) and it sucks causeshe'd be a person id talk to about guys

 

Being conventionally attractive doesn't make it any safer. I've had to leave situations after people found out because I felt that their fantasies put me in danger. There are some people I cannot be around because of the way the objectify people like me. I just don't feel safe. I still get the comments we all get.... the stand-out for me would have to be the drunk guy playing with the machete and going on about how unnatural it is. People react differently but I wouldn't say they react less.

 

Uh, have you checked out the teenager girls and younger women involved in "fandom"? Because there are definitely females out there that get hot and bothered seeing two men together. xD

But there is definitely a double standard... though really, I think that is shrinking. I've seen men and women rip on GLBT people pretty equally over the last five years, though ten years ago there was a bigger gap between EWWW LESBIANS and EWW QUEERS (gay men). :/ Meh.

 

Ironically, the reason (I think) women can get away with more gender bending than men is because people are generally sexist against women. Women are allowed to act like men because being a guy is cool. But if men act girly, it considered, well, girly. Being girly is considered a bad thing.

 

It means that women are more powerful than men. xD