So, here is the story: I’ve had a crush on this guy for a while, but I’ve accepted the fact that he has a boyfriend and is unavailable. So, when I was out I met a friend of his (a girl) we got to talking and she seems really cool, here is the thing. I find myself thinking about her a lot now, I mean A LOT. I’ve accepted myself as gay now this is happening! I mean WTF? Am I gay, bi? Its so frustrating not to know. I find myself attracted to guys, but now is this girl like an anomaly or something? Ugh! any thoughts you folks have is Appreciated.
Maybe you're not a full Kinsey 6(totally gay)? but rather a 4 or 5? Or this girl just has an energy that seems to attract you? I've had it on occasion. Not a sexual attraction but I would say an emotional one.
You don't need to label yourself. Love is love, you can fall in love with anyone. Girl or boy, gay or straight, I honestly don't think it matters much what you call it. <3
It happens, I mine when I thort I was gay or bi or what ever was feeling at the time, fait would slap me around the face with a big wet fish and make me rethink ever thing.
A similar thing happened to me a while ago; I fell for this girl, in spite of being sure I was Kinsey 6. However, that experience showed me that who we are attracted to sexually and who we are attracted to emotionally are two different things. The way I see it, who we are attracted to sexual is determined by our sexuality, while who we are attracted to emotionally is not. Unless you think about her in a sexual way (i.e., "She's so hot/beautiful/whatever."), then there is no reason to suspect that you are not attracted to guys exclusively. Thinking about her because of her personality or the emotional connection you two have is not mutually exclusive with the possibility of you being Kinsey 6.
Don't fret over it. It seems to me like you're getting caught up over the whole gay/bi labeling thing. You might not be fully 100% gay, but it's no big deal. You are not your labels.
I think that might be it, girls never turn my head, but there is something about her. What are the odds? It still makes me crazy.
I've been thinking about it you all are right. I don't need to label myself as gay or bi. Thanks for always being there kiddies!
Yep. Corny is right. They call it the Kinsey scale because it expresses the variegation in sexuality. Any one's sexual orientation is a dot in representing that continuum. If every one is either a 1,2,3,4,5, or 6, it would be call ed the Kinsey chain instead of the Kinsey scale. So worry less and love more.
