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How long did you deny your sexuality?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Swamp56, Feb 26, 2010.

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How long did you deny your sexuality?

  1. I didn't

    31 vote(s)
    19.9%

  2. 0-6 months

    12 vote(s)
    7.7%

  3. 6-11 months

    1 vote(s)
    0.6%

  4. 1-1.9 years

    13 vote(s)
    8.3%

  5. 2-2.9 years

    14 vote(s)
    9.0%

  6. 3-3.9 years

    11 vote(s)
    7.1%

  7. 4-4.9 yeras

    10 vote(s)
    6.4%

  8. 5+ years

    64 vote(s)
    41.0%
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  1. Peter

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    It took me forty years to publicly admit what I had refused to admit all along - people under thirty today probably do not understand why. By the time I came out, I had to come out to my wife and my adult children.
     
    #41 Peter, Feb 28, 2010
  2. 507bro

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    till the end of middle school, high school i knew i was gay for sure
     
    #42 507bro, Feb 28, 2010
  3. lolz

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    I have never really denied it to myself. its sort of something I always have known, even when I was 4 or 5 I knew I was attracted to guys. At the time girls too; just because I thought I was "supposed" to be.
     
    #43 lolz, Feb 28, 2010
  4. Markio

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    I didn't identify myself as gay until I was 18 in college. However, I'd been getting turned on by pictures of men since I was ten, but decided that that was not sufficient evidence, and hoped that girls would interest me eventually. They never did and still don't.

    Also, before I even began getting turned on by thinking about men, I used to imagine men being strangely touchy-feely with each other, just not in a "sexual" way. In other words, nothing to do with genitalia.
     
    #44 Markio, Mar 1, 2010
  5. cattmolez

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    about a year, I guess.
     
    #45 cattmolez, Mar 1, 2010
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    Oh, it was probably a little over 30 years. Yeah, I know; I was a little slow on this one . . . .
     
    #46 s5m1, Mar 1, 2010
  7. EM68

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    ^^

    Sounds like me also. :slight_smile: Now that I'm out I feel so much happier.
     
    #47 EM68, Mar 1, 2010
  8. Swamp56

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    To follow up on the question I asked, I my old psychiatrist did a "rule-out" (meaning that one shows signs, but there is not sufficient evidence to diagnose) on "sexual disorder not otherwise stated" because I had gay thoughts.

    :/
     
    #48 Swamp56, Mar 1, 2010
  9. guacj

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    I hid who I really was for about 10 years...I started coming out right before my 23rd birthday.
     
    #49 guacj, Mar 1, 2010
  10. uptownboy

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    i never deny it..i just confused about it for about 2 years i guess..
     
    #50 uptownboy, Mar 1, 2010
  11. Apple Pie

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    I never denied it. I started being attracted to guys and eventually realized that meant I'm gay.
     
    #51 Apple Pie, Mar 2, 2010
  12. prismaticlight

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    In a way I'm still denying it but I am totally aware of the fact. I have "been" straight for most of my life. I have never actively pursued relationships with women but if one came along and it seemed easy I would go for it. Horribly selfish I know. When having sex with these women it was difficult to get aroused. I would just count the minutes thinking "I hope this is over soon."

    I really suppressed gay thoughts intensely. Every now and then I would get convinced I was straight but NEVER look for a girl to date. I would get so annoyed by women because I just can't make anything work. Why can't I desire a loving relationship with a women?

    I'm not really pretending to be straight anymore cause all that does is aggravate me. I know I like men and coming out to a few people has felt really good. Honestly I am looking forward to finding a good guy but I have to stop being a cynical a$$hole before that will happen. I will find one and hopefully he will appreciate my quirks.
     
    #52 prismaticlight, Mar 7, 2010
  13. someguy82

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    Hid it for about 10 years. Was one of the most relieving moments in my life when I stopped hiding it.
     
    #53 someguy82, Mar 7, 2010
  14. whoami

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    for like two months i was slightly confused so if someone asked i said i was straight but now i am totally open
     
    #54 whoami, Mar 7, 2010
  15. joezimm48

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    i was just unsure for a time
     
    #55 joezimm48, Mar 7, 2010
  16. cpt doodles

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    it was always sortof there in me, and 'developed' a bit more in the last year or so. id been in denial pretty much the whole time, and acted pretty much like a homophobe but then my friend came out and showed me this site. after bein on this site for a while i was thinkin maybe its not something to be ashamed of, but something to embrace - i did and now im totally kewl with it, however telling people shoud be a real thrill ride as the whole super defensive homophobe stage really knocked it into my m8s that im 100% straight - oh fudge...
     
    #56 cpt doodles, Mar 8, 2010
  17. Miss Bubbles

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    I was really little when I found out about it so I didn't understand it. But never denied it.
     
    #57 Miss Bubbles, Mar 8, 2010
  18. Woot

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    I've always been sorta attracted to guys, but even as a kid I always thought, "No, that's just the devil getting into my head to make me perverted. :O" But when my thoughts became more... ahem... "mature". Well, at that point I really tore myself up about it for a year. I just constantly denied it, and tried everything (and I mean everything) to fight my attraction towards guys. But one morning I prayed (and I'm paraphrasing here), "God, if I'm gay, and you think it's okay, please give me a sign. Amen." And later that day, I was randomly pressing the 'stumble upon' button thingy, and I found this site :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: So, 5+ years for me ^^
     
    #58 Woot, Mar 8, 2010
  19. Emberstone

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    never. It took me nearly ten years to come out, but I knew I was gay before I knew there was such a thing in the world. Then I realized how hard it would be to tell my family. I didn't tell them, accepted myself, and never did anything heterosexual in nature.
     
    #59 Emberstone, Mar 8, 2010
  20. adam88

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    I was straight at one point. Back in high school, for example, I had absolutely no interest in guys. Afterward, though, sometime in my mid twenties things shifted. I was in denial for at least the last few years. And now? Much better. :grin:
     
    #60 adam88, Mar 9, 2010
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