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Liking Him: Back and Forth

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by rocking23, Mar 5, 2009.

  1. rocking23

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    Ok, so, I will try and keep it short and sweet. I will talk in point form.

    - There's this guy
    - I liked him, basically, I fell head over heals for him
    - For about a year now, I've loved him
    - He started being a HUGE dick
    - I was blinded by my love for him
    - All my friends told me he was a dick
    - He finally pushed me too far
    - I ended our friendship
    - I can see that hes sorry, but he is too proud to apologize
    - I found myself moving on and forgetting about him and getting over my love
    - All was good!
    - That lasted about 2 weeks
    - Now I have feelings coming back

    My question: what's your opinion on this? What do you suggest I do?
     
  2. Maddy

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    I'd suggest that you do everything you can to pull yourself away. If he won't change enough to say sorry, he's not going to change enough to become a good friend or a good boyfriend. It can be incredibly tough, but do all you can to move on - lean on your friends, lean on us. Try not to contact him.
     
  3. antarranger

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    I don't know if it would be a good idea to go back to someone who was a jerk to you most jerks don't learn and he can't apologize is a sigh his not reily chaged a true friend can aplologize.
     
  4. tazz

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    Do you guys think there is a difference between love and infatuation?
     
  5. Bryan44

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    HUGE difference, however most people confuse the two alot.

    And I think that you have made it clear that this guy is a dick. He is not even willing to apologize for being a jerk. Do you really want to put yourself in that situation of getting hurt by him again? You already know what he is like, save yourself the trouble, move on.
     
  6. Greggers

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    I read "HUGE dick" and thats about it :icon_redf

    ..but i re-read it hah. I would say, give him a second chance IF he is really sorry. Just try not to fall too deep for him, cause if your going to be blinded again you will think hes sorry when hes really not. Definitely worth giving him a second shot if he means alot to you though.
     
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    if hes too proud to apologize then that just shows you how the whole relationship will be
     
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    Hey,
    Its the hardest thing in the world to do, walk away from some you love. But when some one treats you this way, thats what you have to do!!
    If you did go back to him, he would see that as a sign of "I can be a dick and then just say sorry!" - You have started the move away from him, i think you need to continue with that and forget him!!

    It will show you how strong you are, and it may teach him that he cant treat people bad and then expect them to stay around! Maybe he will treat people better after this!!!

    Good luck!
    James
     
  9. Alex19

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    dont even consider some one whos a dick. all it shows is how much of a bad personality they have. dont even waste your time.
     
  10. xequar

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    Walk away, and don't look back. If he can't even muster up the gravitas to apologize to you, then he ain't worth your time, plain and simple. If he hasn't apologized but he "seems sorry," that's YOU projecting your hopes that he's sorry onto the situation, and nothing more. Walk away, tell him to take a long walk off a short pier, if necessary, and find someone who'll treat you right.