My name is Eddie, I am a 31 year old man, and have just come out. Feeling, well i don't really know right now, bit all over the place. I am married and came out to my wife first, then told my family, all of whom are being incredabley supportive (including my wife), which only makes me feel worse. I have got a lot of guilt, and not sure what to do.
Hi Eddie! Welcome to EC. You've come to the right place. We will help you to get through this. It is normal to feel guilty after having come out. With time the guilt will subside. It's great that your wife and family are supportive. This will definitely help you in dealing and coming to terms with it. There are a few members who have been married when they came out. Maybe you could try establishing contact with them. I'm sure they would not mind talking to you about it. What might also help is talking to a therapist about it (that is if you have not done so yet). Often that can help as well. Hope this helps a little bit. Again, welcome to EC!
Hi Eddie! Been there, done that. And it's pretty horrible. I know. I was married to my wife for over 9 years when I finally came out to her. We also had two small children, which make it that much more difficult. I felt I had let them down completely. My wife has become my greatest supporter, and I try to be one for her as well. We each have different needs at different times, but we try to be there for one another. She's my best friend, and will be my partner in raising our kids for the rest of my life. Have you seen anyone for counselling? Your alone or you with your wife? I would strongly recommend having a therapist to talk to through this very difficult time. They can help you deal with and process the very powerful emotions that you're feeling right now. I don't know what I would have done if I didn't have mine to help me. If you'd like to talk one on one we can do that as well. Take care. And welcome to EC. I found this site EXTREMELY helpful in coming to terms with my orientation, and getting comfortable interacting with other people that were gay. Especially given that I wasn't really out to many people in my circle of friends.
Thanks for your replies lads, I will be on this site probabley quite a bit now. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, just don't quite know how to get there at the moment. My wife is being my rock, but I feel this is putting too much preassure on her, and that maybe I should not expect that of her, after all, she has done nothing but be supportive, and deserves so much more than a gay husband.
HI Eddie! I just joined this site about 3 weeks ago. I recently came to terms with my sexuality. This site has made such a difference for me. Hope you find what you are looking for!
Hi and Welcome to empty closets!! I think you found a right place to be!! I know there are people who knows what you are going through now like Jim, and other people are willing to help you if you need Hope to see you around:smilewave
Welcome to EC Eddie! As Kimi said, there are plenty of people here who know what you're going through, and willing to help ^^
