How to give head/ a blow job

I guess the main bit of advice I would offer is to be careful with your teeth. Sounds obvious, but no guy wants to feel teeth even brushing against his dick during a blow job. Sometimes a blow job is referred to as "sucking off" and that might offer more of an insight into what happens, without being overly graphic in detail. But really, the best advice is to listen to what's working for the guy you are with and to ask him too. Communication is key!

You may or may not wish for the guy you are blowing to cum in your mouth and you may or may not wish to swallow if he does. This is a decision for you and you alone to make. Oral sex is generally low risk, but you should not give a guy a blowjob if you have had recent dental surgery or if you have any wounds or ulcers in your mouth, as these become entry points for infections.

One final thought... don't give oral to a guy who has poor genital hygine. Again, it sounds obvious, but a guy with poor hygiene is likely to be negligent in other ways too.

 

There are also some great write ups on this. One great one is "24 Tips for Giving Amazing Head" posted on The Advocate site, written by Alexander Cheves

 

Don't forget about the dangles.

 

I gave head for the first time a week ago. I just treated him how I would want I would want to be treated.

I really got in to it to be honest

 

That sounds wonderful!

 

Yes- I wasn't sure what to expect. But I suddenly realized how badly I have wanted to do that for so long.

 

It really is a daily desire.

 

Me too! I din't know but it gave me the thrill of being in charge. It wasn't submissive at all. I had the control over his pleasure.

 

Today all I can think of is gay sex- it is filling my mind. I yearn for it now. I opened pandora's box of emotions

 

It’s amazing how once the door opens to your same sex attraction it starts to take off like a wild fire consuming your emotions. What a wonderful burn however.

 

right there with you Scott. And that box lid is blown totally off. Power of this is only increasing.

 

it's so gratifying to feel this way

 

That was the expression I used too. For myself, I spent so long fighting my homosexuality that when I finally accepted it, the flood gates opened and all these emotions and feelings filled my every thought and desire. They were overwhelming but they also felt so right. Eventually homosexuality took over completely and the lies I kept telling myself faded away along with my heterosexuality. I haven't had a heterosexual fantasy or dream in a long time now.

 

Totally- like a runaway train now

thanks for sharing that!

 

For me acknowledging and accepting my homosexuality has been a gift. A gift I am so grateful for. It took me a long time to get here but it was worth it. The intensity of emotions and physical sensations I am experiencing as a gay man far exceed anything I remotely felt trying to fit into our heteronormative society. Even now almost 4 years later gay life is so satisfying and fulfilling in ways I would never have imagined. I am so comfortable as a gay man, it feels so normal. I never ever think back to my heterosexual days with anything but regret for having waited so long to escape.

 

After giving oral I now think of it constantly. I am so turned on by giving head!

 

Yes! I also realized that I always felt revulsion 'going down' on a woman - I would literally wince and brace myself.

I think this is very common for us who came out later in life...

This is a good way to put it, it felt so right so good but also like damn bursting.

I remember when I was in denial and saying "i still look at women so i am not gay ". Someone here said that will fade. I remember being terrified at that happening but also knowing they were right...when I let go of the fear, I realized it was a relief and how desperately I was trying to like women hoping it would 'save' me from being gay.

same here.

Until I accepted myself I never realized how much I wanted sex, looking backsex with women was a chore.

 

I am not super experienced but I think it all comes natural.

It's ok to be nervous, but you have to want to do it, not forced, that's what many of us spent years going with girlfriends.

 

It is unfortunate that this aspect of gay sexuality has been subjected to such derision by the straight world since forever. A guy being called a c-sucker was and is considered to be the ultimate insult when in fact that act is a beautiful expression of sexual intimacy between two men. I subscribe to the notion that only another man understands and knows how to pleasure another man orally. No women need apply.