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First Consensual Same Sex Experience (Poll)

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by LilLady9, Feb 24, 2021.

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How old were you when you had your first consensual same sex experience?

  1. 10-13

  2. 14-17

  3. 18-21

  4. 22-25

  5. 26-30

  6. 31-35

  7. 36-40

  8. 41+

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  1. LilLady9

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    Why not? What's the difference between a first same-sex experience and kids fooling around? When I was in middle school (and into freshman year), I gave my befriend oral a bunch of times and we made out bunch of times and cuddled and held hands a bunch. I definitely see this as my first same-sex experience. Not only that, but I wish I could go back in time and relive it.
     
  2. LilLady9

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    Another question I would add is, what's the difference between fooling around and an experimental phase? The bestfriend I speak of views it as an experimental phase, identifies as straight and is currently engaged to his girlfriend.

    The only reason I ask is because I look up to you as another bisexual, respect and want to hear your opinion, and know you have more knowledge about sexuality than I do. :slight_smile: I appreciate you! I've learned so much since being here on EC and you're a large part of it!
     
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    I appreciate the vote of confidence. But I’m no expert in bisexuality. Sexuality is very complex and those that claim they have the answers are not asking enough questions! That’s why I like your posts

    To answer your question, when I “fooled around” I had no attraction to the other boy. I just wanted some sort of sex. It seemed like every other guy was doing the same thing. Was this just that no one is totally straight? Or, is it because boys are just boys?

    When I am attracted to a man or woman there is a feeling like hunger in my gut. It’s almost not sexual. But I just want him/her. I had this for a friend from Jr High through High School yet we never had any sexual intimacy. He came out as gay BTW.

    Your friend could well be in love. For the first twenty years of my marriage I was so sexually satisfied with my wife I would have claimed I had a bi -phase when younger and I was totally straight. But, underneath it all there was still this hunger I would experience when the right guy came by.
     
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    ...go back in time. Ya, that’s one of my current issues. I think about going back in time way too much.
     
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    I don't think reminiscing on the past is a bad thing but it can definitely become an issue if someone thinks about it too much, like you're saying.
     
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    This makes me feel better too! I was 18.
     
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    I was 18. It was with a guy I met at a party, in the back of his Buick.
     
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    Early 20s made out and gave oral to friend
     
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    My first time was when I was 19 and he was 42. We met me at our hotel bar in Cancun and chatted as we didnt live far from each other... invited me to his room with the pretense of hanging out and watching football(I was super clueless about sex at this point in life). He got me a bit drunk. He convinced me to suck him off and bottom for him. I did this bareback. We saw each other for the next few years.
     
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    Hasn't happened yet...
    And I'm old.
     
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    I'm sorry. :frowning2: there's still time!
     
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    Friends with benefits is the best! :slight_smile:
     
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    The furthest I've gone with a guy is oral too.
     
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    I'm quite surprised how many people had their first consensual same-sex experience between the ages 10 and 13!
     
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    I guess it's not surprising that ages 18-21 have the most votes though.
     
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    I'm actually perfectly ok with it..

    If at some point in the future I meet the right someone & something happens, then cool :slight_smile: ..
    If I end up being forever single, then I'm ok on that too..
     
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    Seems like you have a positive attitude! That's always good.
     
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    I guess it's not surprising how many people had their first consensual experience between the ages of 14 and 17.
     
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    Anything that involves orgasm would my definition…

    idk 8-10 , I was an early bird :slight_smile:
     
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    That's a beautiful story...did you ever get caught?