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Waking up as the Opposite Sex

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by LilLady9, Mar 11, 2021.

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    I had a similar experience as well. A friend of mine (a girl) was giving my bestfriend and I oral at the same time and I was pretty jealous she was the one giving him oral and not me. However, at this point, deep down I already knew I was bisexual. I also had already given a guy oral.
     
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    I look forward to hearing more peoples opinion on how their sexual orientation would be impacted if they suddenly woke up one morning as the opposite sex.
     
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    Looking back, most of the time I had to fantasize about being with a guy.
     
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    I didn't/don't have to fantasize about being with a guy to reach climax, but I certainly did and still do fantasize about having sex with a guy about 20-30% of the time I fantasize about having sex.
     
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    I guess that's just part of being bisexual! Haha.
     
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    I have noticed I go through periods where I fantasize more often about having sex with men than having sex with women and periods where I fantasize more often about having sex with woman than having sex with men.
     
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    Again, I guess this is just part of being bisexual. :slight_smile:
     
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    If that makes sense. :slight_smile:
     
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    It does make sense. I have no direct experience myself, but I’m fairly sure that I’ve heard other members describe a similar experience.

    If you’re looking for support and insight on this, you could start a separate thread to discuss this specifically.
     
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    Awesome, thanks! I think I will. I'm sure it's simply being bisexual though. :slight_smile:
     
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    I really appreciate that you acknowledged that it makes sense. Thanks!
     
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    For the most part.
     
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    I love this question.
    For as long as I can remember, my last thought as I fall asleep is, I hope I wake as woman. I’ve always had this desire.
    I know I would be still attracted to the male form because I love the look of penises. I don’t like the look of vaginas at all.
    The only time I find vaginas attractive is when I’m watching female to male transgender porn. I love the masculine form of the FtoM
    To answer your question, if tomorrow morning I woke as a woman (please) I would be a straight woman
     
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    Me too :slight_smile: I found it to be very interesting!

    As a bisexual, it's a pretty difficult question for me to answer. I'd like to think I'd still be bisexual if I randomly woke up one day as a cisgender woman but I very well could be a straight woman or even a lesbian woman. I guess I wouldn't really know unless it happened. I'm pretty comfortable in my cisgender male body but definitely wouldn't mind being a woman. Sometimes I think if I could of chose my gender at birth I would of chose to be a female.

    So, I love the look of some penises and the look of some vaginas. However, the right penis is far more aesthetically and visually pleasing to me than any vagina. With that said, I guess you could say I like the look of penises more than vaginas. However, I still do love the look of some vaginas.

    It's weird though, penis is really the only part of the male body I find visually and aesthetically pleasing. Generally, I like the way a woman's feet, legs, stomach, chest, arms and face look more than a mans. Pretty much everything except genitalia. I do find some men physically attractive though.
     
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    Hmmm, this question got me thinking for sure. Not what it be like to be the opposite sex... tbh I've been fantasizing about that for as long as I can remember.

    What it did was affirm certain things about my sexuality that I already knew or at least knew but haven't fully acknowledged. If I woke a woman I'd be primarily interested in men, I think. Yet I'd also find the idea of hooking up with women hot and could easily pursue a relationship with a woman if I was interested. I'd probably label myself bisexual or strongly bicurious.

    What seems so simple to contemplate as a woman caused me a lot of distress as a man. Probably because the idea of living as a straight/bi woman doesn't seem as difficult as living as a gay/bi man. Not to generalize or invalidate the struggle of any queer person of any orientation in today's society. This is just me analyzing my own motivations.

    That said, I also acknowledge it's not all about sexuality. Like I said I've been fantasizing about being a girl since before I even knew what sex was.
     
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    Pretty sure I would still be bisexual, as while just being the other gender is an interesting concept I've always thought being able to switch gender at will or from something silly like hot or cold water like Ranma from Ranma 1/2 would be ideal.

    As kind of like in the anime Ranma would try to learn some things as a girl so people wouldn't make fun of him if he was a boy like figure skating. Which would be handy in the real world, if you liked something that still is considered only for "the other gender" you could just change and do it without worrying about unhappy judgmental people.

    Another example I can think of and seen far to often is how poorly females who are into cars/trucks/motorcycles are treated. Most men either think they are either helpless and constantly need corrected and helped or think they are just easy to get in the sack. That is the first example that came to my mind but I am sure plenty of women can think of things that would be easier to do if they could just be male for the time it takes to get it done.
     
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    That would be awesome and a lot of fun! I would totally be up for it. That almost sounds like some kind of superpower, haha.
     
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    Ah ranma!!!!
     
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    Ranma is still on my list of anime to watch. Can't believe I never got into it, especially since I enjoy gender-swapping concepts.
     
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    I'll have to add Ranma to my list of anime to watch. It sounds very interesting!
     
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