I put both bisexual and lesbian because even though I consider myself bisexual and have had satisfying relationships with men in the past, I don't think I could now. As I've got older I seem to have migrated into the "lesbian" area of things.
I had a recent experience where I was in a space with around 30 people who identify as queer. It was amazing to realize I was in the minority as a gay man. Also though the LG portion of the LGBTQIA+ community is super toxic towards people who don’t identify as white, and I felt so safe in that space. But y’all not ready for that conversation loo
True. I've also found that a lot of LGs (not all, obviously, and I don't know if it's "most," but definitely many) have an unfortunate tendency to be biphobic / transphobic / etc. Around the same boat, I used to be friends with a gay guy that, upon our falling out, tried to insult me by calling my mother a "homo lesbian." Read that again if you need to. Sarcasm aside, I feel like that's a very real problem among queer communities. Too many people care about their problems and their issues and their fears, but everyone else comes second. Too many LGB people don't concern themselves with trans* issues and don't care that female trans POC are under the threat of particular violence. Seeeveral people who identify as LGBTQ+ and are white can't be overly bothered by racism. Even if they say they're against racism, it can still be pretty obvious that many . . . don't care. If the LGBTQ+ community is going to make leaps and bounds, it has to be inclusive. It can't be "white gays," or "no trans peops," or "no bi's, they confused." Also, sorry for the rambling XD
I have been with my wife for 10 years, married for 5. A few years ago my wife had told me she was having an identity crisis. She eventually told me she was very interested in becoming a man. I was supportive and backed her up. I had no problems with it, I wanted her to be happy. Whatever she decided to do I would support it and we would learn and grow with this experience together.
You’re absolutely right! Not all, not most, but a lot of folks are not too fond of or just don’t care enough about the issues which impact the trans women of color in our community. White gays, please step it up because they need Allies <3
No Name7..... I know some people don't like labels. If that's how you feel, then great don't label yourself. However, I feel different. I went for so many years feeling like I didn't belong. I had no real family/group/place to belong. When I finally accepted that I am and always have been gay, I was so excited to actually "belong" somewhere. For the first time in my life, I started to feel like I knew who I was and where I fit. I love the label "Gay". I am gay and I am so happy to be a part of the LGBTQ Family. .....David
Quebec, I am so with you on that. I haven't been able to find a community near me unfortunately, so I'm really trying to get involved with this site. It's human nature to need to belong somewhere, that's why people feel the need for labels. Also, I love your sense of pride! Keep running with it!
I think I'm gay since I like guys, but I'm not interested in sex until I fall in love. just a little question: how come you put "transsexual" on a list of sexual orientations?
I'm bisexual. Physically/sexually I prefer women, though I am also attracted to men. Romantically/emotionally I lean almost exclusively toward men.