What advice are you sick of hearing?

"The customer is always right."

No he isn't.

 

The one that bothers me lately is that I seem to hear at work fairly frequently, even from people above me, "you should just roll with it more," "try not to worry about it," "it's good enough..." Basically it seems like the main advice I get is to care about it less. Why would I want to spend 40+ hours a week doing something I've decided not to care about? I know they're trying to be helpful but it still sort of irritates me...

 

"Just push through the hard stuff, everything after it is easier"

Stahp. No. You're lying. Stahppppp.

People have been telling me this since 1st grade. It literally never got easier. I doubt it ever will. You know what comes after the hard stuff? More hard stuff....

 

I hate bumper sticker religion. Like: God won’t put more on you than you can handle, he won’t bring you to something that he can bring you through, nothing happens without being filtered through the hands of God... the best one (I know it’s been mentioned) - everything happens for a reason. I was at church with mom like 6 years ago, I’d been sick for a long time and just got out of hospital after a very scary week. Someone said that to me... I looked right at mom with them standing there and said you better get me out of here because I swear to god the next person who says everything happens for a reason I’m gonna slap across the face and ask them do they know why that happened? Because you a dumbass (looking right at the person who had said it)! Mom about died and they rushed me out of church and took me home. It was a couple months before I was asked did I want to go to church with them again lol...

 

"Cheer up" or "smile"

No. You don't get to dictate what mood I'm in. Try saying something nice to me, sure, but don't tell me how I should be feeling as if you're a director telling me how to improve my act so I can sell a product on a cheesy commercial. You don't actually know what I'm dealing with. If my current mood makes you feel uncomfortable, that's your problem, not mine.

"You need more confidence"

Yeah, because that's how confidence works. Someone points out to you that you're low on confidence and you suddenly switch to being more confident. Telling someone to be more confident is basically like telling someone to lose weight. It could be that I'm already working on improving my confidence and it's taking me time to get there, and that I am a lot more donfident now than I was a few months or years earlier when I was really low.

"Don't let it get you down"

I say, DO let it get you down. If something's bothering you, tell me about it. You'll probably feel better after talking about it out loud. Telling you to not let it get you down is basically saying "shut up, I don't want to hear it, you're depressing me". If I care about you I do want you to share your problems with me, I'm not just here for laughs to and to be amused by you.

"Don't give up on your dreams"

Sometimes you do need to give up on your dreams and goals. If you've been working hard at trying to achieve something and not made any progress, then you need to step back from it and try something else. You still have the option to go back to it later, but it could be that focusing your energy on something completely different will help change your approach to your original goal. It could be that right now is not the time to succeed at your dreams, and if you are focusing all your energy on it without getting anywhere, you can start to resent the fact you had this dream in the first place, and that's not going to do you any good. Taking a break gives you a chance to branch out and set yourself new challenges and discover what else you are capable of.

 

"Cheer up" is the one im most annoyed by. like yeah, thanks for telling me that! im definitely bursting with joy now! especially when its in a condescending way.

 

"just don't be in a relationship with a guy, suppress your urges" the entire Presbyterian faith

 

My parents favorite advice
Mum: You won’t find a girlfriend if you don’t get out more
Dad: You won’t find a boyfriend up this mountain
I can’t drive and I’m 5 miles up a mountain and I’m not out to my dad.
Actually one of my aunts told me to get sterilized to avoid passing on a genetic illness. I don’t trust my family’s advice.
Come on give me a smile
I’m a grown adult and unless my dog is being her cute affectionate self I don’t have much to smile about.
You should move out of here
I would love to, Dad, and I’m going to find the money for this where?
You should have that dog put down
I’m not killing my dog because she barks at dogs on the tv
You’ll be able to sleep if you get up at 8 every morning
And when 7 alarms don’t wake me up?

I hate advice I don’t ask for.

 

One time an old lady said to me "Cheer up, you're through the worst of it" and I was like "WTF do you know about what I'm going through? You've known me for 3 seconds, how can you possibly know what I'm dealing with in my personal life?" Stupid presumptuous cunt.

Another piece of advice I get sick of is "Life is short".

I use it myself, but only in a proactive manner, for example, if someone says "I probably shouldn't do this thing I really enjoy doing" or "I'm really tempted to buy that thing" then I'll say "go ahead, life is short, do it while you can" but if someone appears to be pissed off or stressing about something, I won't tell them life is too short to worry about whatever's bothering them, I will ask them if they are ok and if they need help with anything or if they just want to talk about it. I'm not going to cause them further depression by giving a morbid reminder of their mortality.

Any way, life isn't that short. I live in an area with a lot of old retired people. There's a reason we've got more retirement homes than funeral parlours in our town.

 

Agreed. Life isn't short. I'm 22 and considering the first 5 or so years are impossible to remember, I really only have like 17 years of memories and already feel like that's been a long life. Realizing I'll live my entire life over again at least 4 more times before dying makes life seem like an eternity.

 

Yeah, you've got plenty of time ahead of you. Assuming you stay safe and healthy

A similar thing I'm sick of hearing is:

"Live your life to the fullest".

It sounds like way too much hard work to me. Basically implying that I'm not doing enough with my free time. It's kind of the opposite of when people say "appreciate what you have". It's like saying you should never be satisfied and keep wanting more out of life, which is fine if that's how some people want to live, but it's not a bad thing to just be content if you don't want to put too much effort into pursuing new things..

 

Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with - my mom every. Single. Time. I go to my boyfriend's.

 

"Fake it til you make it" yeah that's really hard for someone with anxiety like me

 

Work hard and do your best and everything will work out for you.

 

Be scared of Being Out
, I'm Quaker, which means I always state my mind, so even if my life is on the line, but I'll never risk someone else without their consent.
Oh and Look Up Quaker On YouTube, Specifically.

 

"You just haven't had or tried or met the RIGHT you name it."

I've heard these and I've seen them doled out to people I know. It can be condescending. It can be "oh, poor you" because they perceive to have something you don't have and need. A lot of times it might have to do with an interest, aptitude, taste, or vice that people have and they want you to see it their way. It doesn't have much in the way of 'agreeing to disagree.'

 

This. I never was good at acting, so this isn't a very helpful advice for me.

Also "You're still young! Be adventurous!"
Some older people use it to coerce young adults into work till burnout.

 

“Don’t think about the negative.”

Once somebody says that to me, it is the only thing I can think about.

 

“Cheer up.”

Oh thanks I feel instantly better.