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I feel guilty about my straight friend

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Wiwi77, Jul 11, 2018.

  1. Wiwi77

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    So my best friend who is straight slept in my house this week-end, he doesn't know I'm bi and we sleep in the same bed every time he comes home. He sleep with a shirt and his underwear and I sleep naked, usually nothing happens but this time I spooned him during the night when he was sleeping and my boner was pressing against his ass. I fell asleep and when i woke up I noticed that I cummed on his ass during the night. So he was wearing his underwear so I don't think he felt it and he didn't talked about it since then but I feel bad should I tell him?
     
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    Well, don't you think he might wonder how his underwear became soiled with your cum? You could choose to say nothing, but as he can't cum on his own ass he's going to quickly realise that it was you that spilled over his underwear. What if he doesn't do his own laundry? Would you want another person at his home to discover all of that, with potentially awkward questions?

    When guys are asleep they have nocturnal erections and wet dreams - it happens, it can't be controlled and it's nothing to be ashamed of. I think you should just admit that you came during the night while you were both sleeping and apologise if it made a mess of his underwear. A little embarrassment now could save both of you a great deal of embarrassment on laundry day!

    In future don't go spooning your best friend.
     
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    Yes I suspect that if he woke up and felt your boner pressed against his butt he wouldn’t be pleased. Probably a bad idea for the future
     
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    Thank you I will try to tell him about it next time I see him I just hope he doesn't get angry or something
     
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    Yes and I feel bad for him and I wasn't sure if I had to talk about it since he didn't.
     
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    Jeez! Really?! XD. I didn't knew our fourms handle these problems! Anyway, no offense. Yeah what other are saying is correct but may i know what's your friend personality like... Is he easily angered or anything? Than you could predict them a little better.
     
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    He sometimes gets angry at people but never at me even if we are in a disagreement he's always calm with me.
    I still didn't talk to him about it because he's in sweden and i'm waiting for him to come back
     
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    Okay... So interesting... is he like your best friend or something? I think it might be a little easier to understand if it is your best friend and plus... So if you are saying he is pretty calm with you... I think you might have a shot. But be mindful of your choice of words when talking to him about this.
     
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    Yes he's my bestfriend, but i don't know how to talk about this without it been weird
     
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    Has he been talking to you normally since? If so I probably wouldn't say anything. It's been a few days apparently and he is abroad so you won't see him for a while and I can't see how bringing it up would do any good. I assume his laundry has already been done?

    If he has been weird and distant then maybe bring it up to ease the air but if not then I would just act like nothing happened.
     
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    EXACTLY!!! What "Linning" saying is right too. If he is still talking with you normally. Maybe keep it quiet? But if he IS acting weird. Than maybe get a talk. and about not knowing how to talk? Wellll... Just maybe hangout and while having some normal fun with things and maybe in the mix add it into the talk?
     
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    yeah this. I would just let it be.

    If he is okay sleeping next to you naked then you guys already have your own interesting dynamic. I would say just let it be for now unless you notice he acts differently.
     
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    No he didn't acted weird, we've been talking normally by messages
     
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    After some years he stopped minding my sleeping habit..
    So i don't talk about what happened unless he seems different?
     
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    Yep sure. Or if you are just someone that is bold and just feels really bad for it. Go say it i guess? I know is pretty dumb...