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I did it!

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by IanMkh, Jun 12, 2018.

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  1. IanMkh

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    I came out to my sister this morning and I'm feeling pretty good. I sat her down and said, "I need to tell you something." After I told her, she said she was relieved that it wasn't something bad. So, not a big deal at all, but a huge wall has come down.
     
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    Congrats!! That's so awesome!! Such a relief letting the wall down bit by bit.
     
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    Congratulations! Pleased to hear it went well. :slight_smile:
     
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    Very happy for you ... I came out to my sister two weeks ago. She was the second person on my list (I needed a trial run) but it was actually harder than the first. It went well, and the two more after her have been much easier. I'm actually going down a list now and having much less anxiety than before.
     
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    Great job. As they said in love simon Now you can exhale
     
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    IanMkh.....Yay! Happy! Happy! Happy! Happy!
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Thanks, all. I almost came out to my mom, too. Wasn't planning on that. (I'm 43, she's 71). This was a much-needed pressure valve release. Working up the courage to (possibly) tell my wife. Not sure she wants to be married to a bi guy, so we shall see.
     
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    Congrats on your courage. I know when I finally came out as gay the feeling of liberation and pure release was overwhelmingly fantastic.
    I hope the future is what you desire!
     
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    It’s only fair to tell your wife. She might not want to be married to someone bi. You might also find out once you have been with a guy, you might not want to married to woman any longer. In my case thought I was bi because it seemed easier to accept. That lasted about a minute and I knew the truth was I was gay. In any event your wife deserves to make her own decision. Be honest in the end you’ll both be happier. Good luck.
     
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    That's so great! I am out to my sister as well. She's the only one I've told. We're very close and she's totally fine with it.
     
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    Congratulations on finding the courage
    To come out to your sister I came out to wife and daughters over a month back it is like a heavy weight been lifted of your shoulders just by telling family that your gay .. well done
     
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    Congrats to you too! That was brave of you to come out to your whole family. I wish I was that brave!
     
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    Well done it always feels good when we are accepted for who we truly are. This is especially true when it is a member of our own family
     
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    If you can work up the courage to tell her, which is very difficult, you will find a new freedom to be yourself
     
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    Thank you love4ever it took a long time and a lot of anxiety to come to that decision but yes I'm glad I did it
     
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