Today, I wanted my mom’s opinion on something for school. I gave her my computer. However, I forgot I had a tab from EC open; specifically, one about coming out. I do not know if she saw the tab, but when she gave me my computer back, I’m either paranoid, or she gave me a funny look. Should I worry about if she saw it or not? I have been considering wether it is worth it or not, to come out. This is what the thread was about. I’m not out to my family and I am not sure if they should know yet. Am I working myself up over nothing?
There's really no way to tell whether she saw it or not without asking her, and that would be giving it away anyway. There's no reason to worry about it though, either she knows or she doesn't - nothing can change that now. If she doesn't say anything about it I'd just assume she doesn't know and go about your life normally until you decide whether or not you want to come out to them.
illbehere.....As @Destin said, if she saw it you can't change it now. If she did, you may have already saved yourself all the anxiety of coming out! .....David
Hey I can understand why you are worrying about it but it is true what the others have said, either she didn't see it in which case no panic required or she did see it and the fact she said nothing is a good sign, the only way to know for sure would be to ask but that will most likely give the game away especially if she didn't see it. I mean if you are desperate to cover it up you could say you were looking at it for a friend but this isn't something I would advise as the best option. Take some deep breaths I am sure it will be ok.
I guess so. I’m kinda just wishing I could turn back time so i could have deleted the tab. Thanks for the help.
I can understand that. Had you been considering coming out to your mum or is that's not something you felt ready for? How is your mum generally on LGBT things?
I haven’t been considering coming out to my mom. I feel like I probably would not be taken seriously until I’m older. My mom is supportive of LGBTQ+ topics/people. We have some family members who are a part of this community. I’m pretty sure she would accept me but I’m not 100% sure. Also, I don’t really understand the point of coming out. Why do you have to announce that you aren’t conforming to heteronormativity?
illbehere.....The member @Cashew posted a thread titled "Do I really need to come out?". There are some good answers there to the question that you asked. Here is my answer...you should read the others too!
Yes. Ironically enough, that was the post that started all this. I’ve been trying to find time to read it but I have been really busy.