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How do you feel when someone calls you pretty?

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  1. SkyWinter

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    Do you feel happy? Do you feel a rush in your heart? Do you feel nothing? What about during a more intimate time? When you get called pretty do you feel aroused? Maybe you don't like it?
     
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    I think I feel more comfortable being told that I look attractive instead of pretty. I’ve had people compliment me and tell me I’m pretty and that I have nice curves. But it makes me feel really uncomfortable and bad about myself. I don’t like being thought of as curvy or pretty. I would rather someone compliment me on who I am as a person, or my actions...rather than my physical appearance.
     
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    I've never actually been called 'pretty' since people don't usually say that to guys, but I do enjoy being complimented like that. It's nice of the person to say it and it helps soothe my insecurities to know someone likes how I look.

    It depends on the situation though - it can get annoying when the same person gets obsessed with saying it because then it makes me feel like they're thinking of me as just a body and don't care about my personality at all.

    For intimate times yea it's a turn on because it makes me happy to know my partner enjoys looking at me.
     
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    My girlfriend calls me cute all the time even though I'm don't look cute at all. Many people tend to think that once they know me.
     
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    I like being complimented but I always assume the person is lying because I don’t feel attractive in any way
     
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    On the rare occasions it happens, it generally ends up with me turning bright red and and not really knowing how to respond but I do end up feeling quite good about myself afterwards. I am not one for being the centre of attention, therefore if the compliment is given in front of others then it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable at first. The usual British way is to say "don't be stupid" or something and just dismiss it haha. In private however, I can accept it a lot easier.
     
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    I’ve never been called pretty because like Destin said, people don’t say that to guys. I have been called cute, adorable and handsome. Handsome made me feel weird, but I liked being called cute.
    I’m full of insecurities so I do enjoy the compliment but at the same time it’s a new feeling I’m still not really used to.
     
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    It really depends on the context. If it's just some random person saying it, it can improve my mood a bit, but it's not a huge deal. If it's the girl I've been dating since I moved here, I admit that I get those warm and fuzzy feelings, and it can really make my day.
     
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    When it's my fiancé, I'm touched. It's very flattering.
     
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    If it's by a SO, fine, don't care much for it by anyone else
     
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    I’m terrible at accepting compliments. I wish I had the confidence to say thanks because I usually just put myself down.

    As stated before, guys aren’t usually called pretty, but I know any compliment makes me feel good inside- even though I am horrible at accepting them.
     
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    You sound like me.
     
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    Dependsssssss.... I only like being called pretty when I’m feeling more feminine, and I usually lean towards masculine in my androgynous-ness. Or completely neutral.
    It doesn’t arouse me... if it’s my boyfriend, I might blush. If it’s anyone else, I feel kind of uncomfortable, because I am self-conscious. XD

    Same.
     
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    I've recently had very bad experiences with people. With men, especially, I'm now on high alert. I don't like it when they're seemingly checking me out. I don't like it when they flirt with me. I think there's an ulterior motive. Most people would see it as a good thing, take it as a compliment. However, it scares me and pisses me the fuck off. I tried checking out an educational program last month, and there was a guy there who checked me out. I wanted to tell him off and slap him. The word angry can't come close to describing how I felt. Then later, he asked me where the toilet was, I think he was trying to flirt with me, caught me off guard and I was nice to him. I wasn't caught off guard by his flirting, I just wasn't expecting anyone to approach me.
     
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    Personally I don't really like it, it makes me feel odd, and if it's a stranger saying it then it's just awkward and slightly embarrassing to me for some reason.... My girlfriend however loves to be called pretty, sometimes I feel like it really brightens her day.
     
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    Thanks, followed by a smile.

    Although to be a model I'd have to gain a stone and stop pulling my hair/picking my scalp first. Then, apart from ridicously high standards, I could be.
     
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    The only person to have ever called me beautiful was my mom :frowning2:

    Me being a 5'10.5" 300lb woman means my dating pool is extremely small because people generally want skinny/er girls. I know this because nobody bothers even talking to me when I'm out and about, unless it's to tell me that I should lose weight if I want to meet someone (Yes, some old man actually said this to me). So yeah, my self-esteem is nearly non-existent... I'd like to be called pretty again though
     
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    I feel really good about myself . And like I am . It makes me feel happy
     
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    You are pretty :hearts::hearts::hearts::hearts:
     
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    I pick my scalp too, it's hard because sometimes I don't even notice I'm doing it