So I finally asked someone (my best friend) to change to they/them pronouns for me and they said yes. And even though I only asked her to use it is only around people I am out to and strangers, it feels absolutely fantastic. Soon I will probably bring it up with the other friend I am out to.
I went to Old Navy last week to get some "boy" clothes for my Grandma's funeral, in femme. I discovered it's much easier and less nerve wracking "cross shopping" as a girl buying guy's clothes than it is in reverse. And I know I passed because the cashier said to my friend and I "Have a good night ladies!" as she handed me my bags.
I've came out to most people at my school, everybody that I've told really respects me, and they call me he. I thought I would never get to the place I am right now (even though the rode is so much longer and I am pretty deep in the closet)
In case you don't know, I'm pretty sure I am FTM now or at the very least transmasculine. Anyway, I just got a haircut but I wasn't feeling that good about myself because I was convinced I wasn't passing. But I went to the supermarket with my brother to help my mom with grocery shopping and I mean, it was pretty great. A little kid pointed at me from down the shopping aisle (kinda rude but I'm used to it XD) and said to his mom, "Is that a girl up there?" I just smiled awkwardly and internally cringed, I really thought I was going to be misgendered but his mom just laughed a little and said, "No." And then the cashier handed the grocery bags to my brother and I, saying, "Here you go, boys." Even after my mom said she had a daughter. She must've thought that was a non-existent sister or something lol.
I came out to my dad today, we have a terrible relationship, we haven't seen each other for years, I came out as gay to him 8 years ago, and he didn't take it well at all, in fact, it made our relationship worse - if that's even possible. Today, he said me a message on Facebook calling me his son and telling me he loves me (he doesn't know I'm trans), I think him calling me his son was part of the reason I came out to him (I want to be his daughter, any male pronouns, I just can't stand!). I replied to his message telling him I was questioning my gender and that I wanted to be a woman. He's been online since, but he hasn't looked at the message, or so Facebook says, I sent him a text message on what I think is his current phone number saying I want to be a woman... It seems like a bit of a cop-out for a couple of reasons, I know he's never going to accept me, it will lead to a barrage of abuse about how I'm confused and not a real man (obviously, lol) and also, he's not even a part of my life, I haven't seen him in 4 years, it's not going to make our relationship any worse... My mom said why didn't you wait till you saw him face to face, but the truth is, I don't know when that will be
I’m not even wearing makeup today to go to work and I got “miss” and “ma’am”ed a few times today! So either people in my town have suddenly gotten really nice and accepting, or I’m finally starting to pass. Either way it feels amazing <3
I found this forum and have started opening myself up to the idea that I am likely trans. As I turn 33 on Sunday, I feel like I am a bit of a "late bloomer". No one in my life knows yet and I am particularly afraid of how my wife will react, but I consider allowing myself to post here a significant victory.
I am fighting for my care in spite of my doctors actively trying to prevent me getting hormone therapy even though I've been on it for a year already. I'm just happy I'm able to keep fighting for it.
not a cop out at all. if your relationship is that toxic but you still want, at least, some contact I would say that you handled it very well. I came out to my parents in a letter and they live, literally, 100 feet from me across a small yard and a driveway.
welcome, and happy birthday. you're not late at all, I was 49 when I accepted and started HRT the day before my 50th, so almost a year for me. as for your wife I'm sorry, cant help there, I split from mine in '13 for other reasons.
Thank you for your response. This made me feel a little better. Regarding my wife, we just got married in October, and I'm a bit bummed that it was partially the catalyst for me having this realization. She might actually be OK with it, but part of me feels irresponsible for not facing this sooner. :/
This have been a pretty exciting day! We had a little uh "misunderstaing" in school and our class mascot was taken away. :/ But the principal offered us a way to get him back. We have to dance "mazurka" in front of her (and school) and she will give it back. The thing is everyone needs a parther for this dance. And I managed to get myself a girl! Even better is the fact that I'll be taking the guy's role in the dance! We already practiced and I've always been very uncomfortable and had enormous anxiety when it came to social events and mainly dancing. But now I was actually really enjoying it. It's amazing I never thought I could actually enjoy such thing! Also since I started using male pronouns (well in my head only for now) my self confidence is getting higher and higher. Thanks god I discovered I'm trans
Just ordered my first packer. Kind of nervous about it- I'd be really embarrassed if anyone I know finds out that I bought one. But I've been wanting to try proper packing for a while and if I just sit around feeling embarrassed about it I'll never end up buying one.
I just started looking into them for the first time and found one I really want, too. Definitely a bit embarrassing, but I'm also eager to take this step as well. Congrats on the purchase!
the thing is we face it when we face it. i fought being me from age 6, that's over 40 years. i hope she's cool with it but now that you know, can you put the toothpaste back in the tube? i couldn't so i just ignored it till i had to face it.