Ever since the start of the new year I've been to the gym everyday. Sadly it doesn't seem to be helping. So soon I'll be starting a strick diet. Processed foods also do a number on my skin. So the less of that as possible, the better. I'm doing all of this to try to become more attractive. But the problem there is that it's hard to motivate yourself to look better and workout at the gym everyday for shallow, empty reasons. Plus there's no guarantee that I'll be able to have a relationship with someone for any sensible period of time. But if I give up I'll feel worse. Idk what to do. Just watch motivational videos on YouTube I guess. Or try to force my mind into becoming obsessed with it. I enjoy living in such states of mind. Its kinda like therapy. But I keep jumping back to searching for meaning in my life. What can I do to motivate myself to continue doing this? Maybe I'm just not trying hard enough.
Try to imagine yourself as a muscular athletic person when you workout. I don't mean imagine what you look like, imagine what you feel like when you have all of that power. Try to focus on the health aspect of it instead of the appearance aspect of it and you'll get much farther. Also try eating spinach salad with lots of dark green vegetables. Lettuce isn't super great for you and honestly does not taste as good as spinach either.
Focusing on the health aspect is a good idea- also maybe get a friend to join in with you? A workout buddy really keeps me motivated so it might work for you too. Also focus on really specific goals instead of broader ones (ie. lifting 5 pounds more by end of the week, increasing running speed by blah blah)- this way it will seem more like a challenge or game than something you just do for shallow reason... which by the way I don't really think is super shallow. I worked out really hard for the entire summer, a few summers back with a friend and while I am not sure if it made me more attractive I felt a lot more confident about myself! Good luck!
Nothing shallow about wanting to have a muscular build. People that normally say they only want to go to the gym so they can become more attractive tends to want to be in a relationship with a type that necessarily wouldn't date them otherwise. I think this thinking is detrimental to your confidence. Your personality goes further than you think. What keeps me motivated is achieving overall fitness on every part of my body and challenging myself to do things I couldn' do a month ago. Sign up for workout chat apps.
I promised I would not gain the weight back it has been 6 years since I got to my goal weight of 170. I looked great and then 10 pounds by 10 pounds I am at 210. I will get back to at least 180. It is very hard to work out and loose weight and eat right. I am willing to do this if you are, cyber work out mates so to speak.
