Do you ever just feel depressed and lonely?

I get what your saying. Most of my friends are also straight. They're great and supportive and all, but there are some things I really can't talk to them about because they just won't understand certain issues I have because they are problems straight people just don't have. I do know a decent number of LGBTQ+ people, but most live at least an hour drive away and I'm not really that close to many of them anyway, so I wouldn't feel really confortable telling them about my problems. It is annoying, and I do feel lonely and kind of depressed some times because of it.

 

Yes. I'm 26 and have been lonely for as long as I can remember and had episodes of severe depression (as well as constant dysthymia/melancholy) since I was 16. 16 was also the age that my same sex attraction was getting more difficult to deny and the age at which I tried to tell my parents who responded negatively. I have no friends. I grew up in a rural area. Although the UK isn't nearly as religious as the US, being gay is still looked down on by many.

 

I know the feeling. I guess I don’t feel lonely overall, but I do feel alone sometimes. My friends are all straight as well, and they’re very accepting and supportive....But I don’t feel like I have anyone in my real life to relate with/to. I don’t know anyone else who’s LGBTQ+, so it gets lonely feeling like I’m one of the few LGBTQ+ in my life lol. I also live in a small suburban kind of town...many people here are pretty conservative, but it’s gotten more open over the years. Just still isn’t much of an LGBTQ+ culture around here, so it’s hard to meet people. I guess I’m kind of an introvert, so being alone is kind of therapeutic to me, but it does make it challenging to meet people in real life and put myself out there. I do get depressed at times as well, and I’ve had some pretty heavy depression in the past. Lately, I’m okay as far as depression goes, but I’ve been struggling with anxiety. I tend to fluctuate between being depressed and being anxious lol.

 

I'm 25 and feel pretty lonely. So I went to my colleges counselling department and asked for an appointment with a counsellor

 

I feel lonely sometimes and I do have Major Depression/Generalized anxiety. I live alone so I try my hardest to keep busy and I appreciate my friends for being ok with me talking to me from time to time. I'm trying to step out of my comfort zone.

 

I feel that way about stuff not even related to my sexuality. Granted I also feel the same way about the whole bisexual thing too, and living in one of the reddest states in the USA doesn't help.

Some times it just seems like no one really gets me at all. Like no amount of explaining or pie charts is going to ever get anyone to understand me... Well my therapist gets me, but that is sort of her job lol

 

Yes I feel depressed and lonely sometimes.

 

Same. I think we all feel depressed and lonely sometimes, some of us more so than others. And for all different reasons. Personally for me I have bouts of depression, like some days, sometimes even months at a time I feel just so great and alive, and then it's like I wake up and am so depressed to the point that I don't even want to get out of bed. My depression I feel is usually the main factor of my lonely feeling also. I usually recognize when I am depressed and just force myself to do everyday things normally, try to occupy my spare thinking time during those periods, and I talk about my problems with others. It's really what gets me through. I imagine about the people though who have it worse, depression can be more painful for some and even deadly. Which is kind of depressing thinking about.. My advice to anyone who is depressed would be to seek help and if you're unable to acquire professional help you should reach out to someone who will listen, just to talk to. Talking to someone who is honestly truly listening can make a big difference. Also try to identify exactly what it is that is making you depressed or maybe you're just a naturally depressed person, either way figure that out. Some people seem to find medication helps, personally for me I tried 2 separate medications years ago, and I didn't like it. Both medications I tried made me feel weird and careless. Not to mention that it's possible the medication can have reverse effects, and a lot of people don't know that taking these medications and then just stopping can induce suicidal thoughts and make your depression worse, not to mention what these chemicals are possibly doing to your brain. BUT. That was for me & my opinion, medication does seem to work for some people, but you never know until you try it.
If you are depressed to the point of being suicidal or having suicidal thoughts you should immediately seek help. And always remember somewhere deep down that your life is important. It may not seem important or feel important, but it is. And whatever it is that's bringing you down you have the ability to change. Whether that change be lifestyle, relationship, career, etc. I mean in todays world you can even change your face if you don't like it, you have the power to accomplish great things to get you to where you want to be/change what you want to change, just stick in there and work for it, test yourself, and overcome it. And if you're depressed because of loss of a loved one remember to yourself that you have something they don't have anymore and that is a life, use it, use it to carry on memories, use it to help others with similar problems, just use it, never give it up. Not that easy anyway.

Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 or for memory 1-800-273-talk
Website: suicidepreventionlifeline.org

 

yes, I do.
I'm friends with people of many different sexual or romantic orientations, so it's not really an issue. it's more like a cultural thing in my case as I seem to be one of the very few cybergoths out there.

 

Yes, every single day. Sexuality-wise and also in the sense that the people around me are more careless and 'youthful' and I am more of an old soul and have different interests. Even in LGBT+ environment, I kind of feel left out, which makes me feel even worse.

 

I completely understand what it's like to live in a small town in the south. Depressed and lonely is kind of my default emotional state, even when there are a bunch of people around. I know they like the person that they think I am, but I know that they would hate the real me because the church tells them to. I suspect that's the reason I'm almost always feeling like that. I mean, if I can't be the real me, I can't make any real friends, and that would absolutely lead to depression and loneliness.

 

Yep. I can totally relate to that. I happen to live in a fairly rural part of England where the gay community is virtually non-existent, so I find that adds to my sense of loneliness a lot of the time. I have supportive family and friends (who are all straight) and I appreciate their support, but I get depressed quite a bit because there's just not enough gay people to socialise with. It would be great just to meet up with more LGBT people in general and share experiences and feel more connected, as opposed to feeling lonesome all the time.

Thankfully support groups are starting to pop up in my county now in aid of the general LGBT community, but a lot more resources are required to make these groups visible and effective. I guess I've just got to be patient and try and find some more connections ;-)

 

right now.

 

Sometimes, yeah. I spend several hours every workday around people, but a lot of superficial interactions with people who don't really get you can't fulfill someone.

I'm a little older and I feel like many people are done making new friends.

 

Oh yes I feel this way sometimes. It comes without warning and can last for days at a time.

 

I feel depressed and lonely quite a lot. I too have some friends and they're straight and homophobes. So yeah, I feel lonely.

 

Yikes, yeah, a good majority of the time.
Having only straight friends must suck. Being in a bad home-schooling situation, i have no social life at all unless my dog counts and i go through my day barely having spoken a word to 3/4 members of my family and i sometimes feel more like that fourth member's dog than their friend; it's horribly lonely.
I tend to just kinda float around between the spaced out state of "i cant remember what i did yesterday or even an hour ago but i guess what can ya do" and the far shittier "i just want to sleep" state and eventually i get to the oh so tormenting "kill yourself" point but, to be honest, the only person to for letting things get the way they have and continue to stay that way for so long.

I'd say something more helpful but Kyrielles has already got that down. Thanks for the sweet vent-sesh tho.

 

I totally get it. I live in the rural farmland, and while I know it's not so, I feel like I am the only gay girl in the entire area. I am ALWAYS lonely, and I'm pretty sure I'll be alone forever.

 

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