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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Markieg64, Nov 13, 2017.

  1. Markieg64

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    Hello everyone
    I' m Mark I'm 53 and 2 years ago I admitted to myself that I'm gay .
    I am a married man of 30yrs
    I have come on this site to just tell other people and make new friends who understand because I have had bad time admitting to myself but know I'm happy with being gay . I have just got to pluck the courage to tell wife and my girls
    Then rest of family and friends don't
    Know if I will just yet. Till I think I'm ready you might think this is silly but I feel a bit relieved just by typing it out on here and telling someone else.
     
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    It’s not silly mark. I have a similar situation. I recently accepted that I’m bisexual. I’m 45 and married. So far I’m not out to anyone, and I’m not sure if I will, but it does feel good to tell someone even if anonymously.
     
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    Welcome Mark. You would feel good by letting your feelings and thoughts out here. You can vent here. We will listen and offer our view on stuff as best as we can. There are many stories similar to yours here. How did you come to the realisation you were gay? Looking back were there any pointers?
     
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    Hi pole star
    Yes i thought I might be in my teens the way I used to look at other boys but back then as you proberly know it was not exepted so I started to date girls which I was not really interested in but done it any way and a bit later on I met a girl and we got married and some how put it to back of my mind but 5 yrs ago it all came back and I have not been able to stop thinking about having relationships with other men
     
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    Hi biguy thnx for your quote yes it does feel good telling people who understand and yes it is hard to come out
     
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    I know what you mean. Sometimes it’s all I can think about
     
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    Hi pole star yes I thought I was when I was in my teens the way I used to look at other boys and did not really look at girls in that way but because it was back then when it was not exepted I started seeing girls then later on got married and seemed to put it to back of my mind until 5yrs ago when it all came flooding out and I have started looking at men again and thinking about having relationships with another men
     
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    I know it just don't stop at the moment but that'
    Is ok
     
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    Yes many of my thoughts are frankly a little to risqué to post here. Now I spend my day fantasizing about men and women. Very distracting Although since I’ve accepted it, more have been about men than women
     
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    yes I know I fantasize all the time it's nice and really gets me should I say in the mood
     
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    Agreed
     
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    I have got to sign off know it has been great talking about how I feel to you it's been good I won't be back on here till tomorrow off out . And thnx again you have made me feel at eze
     
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    I’m glad I could help in any way. Happy to talk any time I’m on here
     
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    Welcome mark !
     
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    It really feels good. I would really like to get to know older gay/bi guy. How do you live your lives?
     
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    That's very sad Mark. Don't worry you have all of us to talk to. We'll support you all the way. Keep strong.
     
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    IM in the closet and married so I live like a typical married guy with secret desires and attractions I’m afraid. I’m just glad my attraction to women is still strong or I would be miserable
     
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    That's very nice to know. I think there are many guys who are in the same boat with you. Don't worry about it. Stay strong.
     
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    Thank you I will