So, I'm planning on coming out to my family on Sunday (the 15th). My oh so brilliant plan is to write each of my family members a letter and then leave the letters in their respective dressers. It should be noted that I don't live with my family, I live in different town thirty minutes away because of school. Is there any advice that I could get?
i don't really have any advice ....sorry i think you should probably go with the latter thing cause i'm kinda thinking about doing the same thing good luck
Hey Hobbes, I'd say that your choice of method for Coming Out will potentially leave you hanging for reactions until your family members respond via text, phone call or face-to-face. So I'd say that your best bet is to have something to do to occupy your time constructively while you await their reactions. In terms of responding to their reactions, are you anticipating some negative or questioning reactions? If so, what kind of reactions are you anticipating?
dude.... you got to be strong i don't really have any advice for you because i'm kinda in the same boat. well at least you know that you're not alone i'm not going to lie i'm freaking scard bro lol. don't give up and be strong even though i already said that ready just know that i have you back and that you are not alone good luck bro just have a safe and a happy coming out
It's always a good idea to provide a link to groups like PFLAG in any letter and urge the recipients to check out the link before contacting you. Why? Because many of the questions they may have will already be answered and answered well on their website. Take a look for yourself by searching PFLAG.
Only advice is to be ready. Ready for good reactions and also for not-so-good good ones. I think my biggest oversight when coming out to my family (via letter as well) was that I was not prepared for the reaction and consequences. I had only planned so far as the delivery of the letter. But since you are not living with family it should be less of a personal risk to come out. Stay true and stay strong. Once you come out, the biggest weight will be lifted off your shoulders.
Well, I'm expecting mixed reactions. I really think that each of them is going to have a different reaction and I'm still not sure how to handle that. I'll look into PFLAG and add it to the end of the letters. Thank you everyone for the advice and support.
Hey Hobbes, Just FYI, there is a pamphlet called Our Children on the PFLAG webiste that you might want to consider downloading and printing for them.