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How to talk to this person you're attracted to.

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    Hey everyone,

    What are some ways you went up to this person you're interested in? I am very shy and I really want to get to know this girl I just met. Any tips or advice on how to approach her? Even if it's just starting as friends.
     
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    Is it in a school situation? Where do you usually see her?
     
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    If you have anything in common or if there's something notable going on, just start a casual conversation with her about it when she looks like she's not doing anything. I would try and stay as confident as you can so you don't come off awkward. Also, don't have just one conversation with her, be consistent. That doesn't have to mean five conversations a day, maybe just one or two a day, as long as they're not completely insignificant. If you do this, she may start approaching you by herself. So basically, confidence and consistency.
     
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    Just trying to be friendly to begin with is good, so ask her what she is doing in the evening or at the weekend. If you have seen a movie or tv show ask if she has seen it, or what she likes doing. Just try and get a conversation started and then hopefully it can grow from there.
     
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    I observe the person and see if I can spot any common interest.

    I have a Tattoo and if I see a guy with a Tattoo that I am interested in, I can easily start up a conversation by asking him where he got his Ink, also I some times tell a guy I really like his fragrance and want to know what it is and where I can get it, or I like your hair style who cuts your hair or sometimes a tee shirt or other clothing they are wearing can start a conversation.

    People like compliments and they like talking about them self so finding something in common or something you like about them can get a conversation started.
     
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    I was able to talk to her a bit yesterday about work and she tried to be funny with some jokes. They were pretty good and I don't know if she was trying to be funny to get me to laugh. I'm trying to open up more so she can see that I'm interested. I just don't want to show too much and then she isn't interested. :/
     
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    So besides that one day it's been a bit hard to strike up a conversation with her again. I'm starting to think she's afraid to approach me because I have that sort of like serious look when I'm working or space out. I can't help that my face is like that, but yea still struggling here. :/
     
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    Can you approach her?
     
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    I always like try to and then I like chicken out. With other people around I was able to engage in conversation better. I've noticed when I pass by her I catch her staring.... is it a good or bad thing? lol I feel like she wants me to approach cause she has before and now she wants me to do it. I don't know I just feel like I'd just catch her at the wrong moments.
     
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    Aww it's tough isn't it. If she is staring it's usually a good thing, she is probably hoping you will approach or trying to summon up the courage to approach herself. You just got to find the 10 seconds of bravery we have deep inside us. I promise it's there somewhere. Take a deep breath, close you eyes for a second and then go for it. If she is looking at you it's unlikely to be a bad time. Just smile as you walk over to her I promise it helps both of you.
     
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    If she's staring at you and she was trying to make you laugh, she is 100% interested in talking to you and you should definitely feel confident in going to talk to her. It can definitely be hard to talk to the person you like, I know, but she is definitely giving you the right sorta signs so don't be afraid.
     
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    I mean I hope I am seeing these signs. It's just new to me like being interested in a woman, so I feel like some of the signs I'm seeing are like what I want to see and not what she really is doing. However lately I've noticed more signs, I just got to have some guts to try and talk to her.
     
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    You can do it :slight_smile:
     
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    Hopefully I'll have some guts when I see her again. I want to see if she is going to stare at me again at work or hopefully try and approach me. I know I have to put the effort in as well. Are you one of those people who believe in the gut feeling?
     
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    Yeah I believe you can have a gut feeling. Maybe you can meet her halfway. I know it's nerve wracking but makesure you smile, smiles can go a long way.
     
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    Alright thank you! Cause I get like this gut feeling like she's interested but I don't know if I should trust it. I also get butterflies when we've made eye contact. I feel like I'm all over the place. Thanks for listening I know I'm a mess.
     
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    Haha don't worry it's a good thing :slight_smile:. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Let us know how it goes.
     
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    Will do! Hopefully I can step up to the plate cause thinking about it makes me nervous lol.